Post # 1
So, a little back story. A few weeks ago I gave my chihuahua/weiner dog mix to an older lady that would spend 24 hours a day with her (she needed someone’s undivided attention). I had her for her whole life up until that point – 6.5 years – but she is needy, aggressive, and literally wouldn’t let me sleep for more than a couple hours straight. I took her to dog training classes, tried just letting her whine until she gave up (she whined for up to 8 hours at one point), I did everything I could to make her a better dog/me a better owner for her. It just wasn’t working out. So I found the best home for her I could, cried dropping her off, and now here we are…
I regularly checked Pet Finder for adoptable dogs even before I gave Boo (that is her name) away. But I couldn’t get another dog while I had her because 1) Boo doesn’t like other dogs and 2) I didn’t want Boo to teach a new dog her bad habits. I’ve been checking more regularly since giving Boo away and this morning I found a puppy at a pound nearby that looks perfect for us.
We got a kitten right before Christmas so he’s big enough now to be around a bigger dog and be able to protect himself if he feels threatened. He is also used to at least Boo since he grew up with her here. We live in a 3 bedroom condo (with 1 roommate currently, but she’ll be moving out June 1st and then we will live by ourselves) which is good sized but with a small patio. My school schedule permits for me to be home most of the day so I could start house breaking/training this puppy, but I have been enjoying the freedom having only a cat has brought me.
I’m torn. My mom says to wait. I haven’t heard back from SO yet lol. What do you guys think I should do?! Also, here’s a few pictures just to show how hard my decision is!
Post # 3
No, please don’t adopt a dog again. What if this dog becomes needy and agressive? You enjoy the freedom just having a cat gives you..stick with that 🙂
Post # 4
Definitely wait! I think you’re probably just missing your dog, so please don’t adopt a dog on a whim! You just got rid of a dog because it required too much attention. It wasn’t just that dog. All dogs require a lot of attention! I wouldn’t do it.
Post # 5
No, please don’t get another dog!
Post # 6
I am sure you miss your lil Boo to pieces. But right now, if you did adopt a new dog, it would be because of that, to fill a void you have. Wait it out. Maybe wait until school is over? Maybe wait until your wedding is over. Give your self a time limit. Wait until then, and see if you feel the same.
If you want another animal and enjoy cats, maybe adopt another kitty?
Post # 7
If for no other reason, don’t adopt a puppy without your SO’s buy-in.
Post # 8
I feel so bad for Boo, who is probably so confused and missing you right now. I wouldn’t get another dog and hope that this one is less work than Boo.
Post # 9
Consider that that dog looks like a full blooded Pit bull or at least a pit bull mix. Personal opinion aside, many condos and apartment complexes prohibit these types of dogs. You don’t want to get into a situation where you get another dog, only to have to give it away also. It’s not fair to the animals. Back away from Petfinder!!!
Post # 10
I don’t know if I explained the situation correctly/thoroughly. I don’t want you guys to get the wrong impression of my giving up my dog. It wasn’t just because she needed a lot of attention (although that was part of it), she is a one person dog, she would growl/bark/attack anyone who got close to me whether it was my mom or a friend or my SO. When I was single, it was ok, she still drove me crazy but I dealt with it because she was mine. I felt responsible for her bad manners, even though my uncle (who I got the dog from) told me that her whole family was crazy after I had had her for over a year – Mom, Dad, Sisters, Brother and Cousin, everyone – I felt like a bad mother the whole time I had her.
I didn’t give her to the pound like some people would (which my dad recommended) because she is aggressive, skittish and has a tendency to bite whenever she feels like it. She would have most likely been put to sleep. I gave her to an older single lady so she could get the UNDIVIDED attention she needs. Obviously, you guys didn’t interact with her so you couldn’t know the extent of the issues we had, but keep in mind it was much worse in real life and I would appreciate if you tried to not judge me too harshly.
I understand that dogs are a lot of work, I’ve had dogs my entire life. Boo is the only dog I’ve had that has behaved this way. I also understand puppies are even more work than grown dogs because they need to be potty-trained, need to be trained, socialized, everything plus they’re teething and will likely chew on anything they can get their paws on. I’ve gone through all this many many times throughout my life with the animals my family has brought home.
We have already talked about adopting another cat but we don’t want to until we get a dog, because we plan to get other dogs in the future and want the animals to get along/be friends if possible. We also know that she is at least part pit bull. My neighbor has a pit bull and my association has no rules against it. I own the condo so I don’t have a landlord. I would, of course, never make this kind of decision without my SO’s input. Luckily, she isn’t available until Wednesday so this isn’t going to be a rushed decision.
I thank you for all your opinions. This is a huge decision and I would never want an innocent animal to suffer for my actions, hasty or otherwise.
Post # 11
@cmbr: + 1!
I think you should wait. You could not cope with your little chihuahua, and it must have been really hard for her to re-adjust, and to deal with the heartbreak of being seperated from you. Is that dog a staffy/pitbull mix? Generally, staffies and pitbulls make awesome pets, but it is extra hard training, and you need to be 100% committed. It would be very unfair to adopt another dog after giving one away, and to adopt this one out too if you can’t cope. Also, staffies/pitbulls/bull terriers (what this one might be a mix of) require great amounts of excercise and space. We had a staffy x bull terrier, and at the age of 13 he still wanted a walk 4 times a week at the beach, and loved running around all of the time. By the sounds of things your house won’t be too suitable, and you might find it hard to commit to daily walks, and the dog might become bored with only a small patio as a play area! Wait until you’re ready to commit, are not wanting to fill the void of Boo, and for when you and your SO live somewhere that has a big yard with grass and space to run around.
Get another kitten. You said that you find cats easier to deal with, and that they suit your lifestyle.
ps. That dog is gorgeous, I can understand that it would be tempting!
Post # 12
Sounds like you made the right decision with your last dog. But definitely step away from petfinder for a couple days and talk it over with your SO. Make sure you really want another puppy, you don’t just miss Boo. If you’re sure you want another dog, do you really want one right now? If you’re in school, planning a wedding (?), you’ll be super busy and it might not be the best time. If you’d rather spend all your free time running a puppy outside to pee and cleaning up puddles – go for it.
Post # 13
You do not have enough stability yet to adopt a dog. Enjoy your dog free time.
Post # 14
You can’t handle having a dog, so don’t do it again. Dogs take commitment and patience, which you don’t have. I have never heard of a dog ‘needing’ to be near someone 24/7; YOU trained him to be that way, by nature he isn’t needy. I’m not sure if my mentioning he is a chihuahua is supposed to mean he is especially needy- I have 2 myself and they are alot to handle, but do you know what I do? I walk them, give them exercise and attention. I don’t just love them when I feel like it, or not walk their energy off because I don’t want to.
Don’t mess up another dog just because you want a cute puppy- what so the novely runs dry and you give him away too? people should adopt animals to make their lives better, not worse.
Post # 15
I don’t think you’re ready for the responsibility of a dog yet.
Post # 16
@FutureMrsJohnson_: i’m a sucker for pitties and that face is just so darn cute! i honestly think only you can answer your own question. only you know if it’s the right time to get another dog. i’m glad to hear your condo association doesn’t discriminate against pitties.