(Closed) Should I tell my best friend her husband is posting their marital issues?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

@SouthernGirl:  that’s a tough one.. I wouldn’t be sure on what to do.. but just think of it this way.. if you were in her shoes would you want to know?/

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

If it were me with my bestie, I’d tell her.  There’s no excuse for the husband to publicly post their problems and bash her when she has no way of defending herself.  In my opinion, anyway.

ETA: And, I believe I’d want to know if it were me…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I know you should mind your own business in most cases, but in this case I would tell my friend. I would want to know if I was in her shoes.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

Try to turn the situation around. If this were your separated husband airing your dirty laundry out on FB, would you want to know about it? Personally, I would. It’s no one else’s business what’s going on in my marriage and I’d be incredibly hurt if my Darling Husband started talking to someone about what’s happening. Then again, I can totally see how you would want to stay out of it. At the end of the day, if she finds out you knew he was saying all of that stuff and didn’t tell her, you might lose a friend :o( 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I would suggest she get her own facebook page:) Just kidding, I would talk to herand just let her know that he has been venting on faacebook and you thought she know. If she wants more details she can ask or make herself an account and see.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If he’s posting this stuff on Facebook, then she’s going to find out eventually.  I think you should tell her!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would definitely tell my friend. I wouldn’t even hesitate. Because I know if that were my husband, I would defintiely want to know.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If he put it out there for the rest of the world to see what does he expect? I think it’s a passive aggressive tactic…he probably wants her to find out what he’s writing. Oh Facebook.

Better her hear it from her best friend than someone else. Good luck!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Hell yeah I would tell her! I almost always say mind your own busines but he’s airing this out for everyone he’s friends with to see so he’s just asking for it to get back to her.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If it were me I would rather hear it from a close friend/family member than some person who barely knows me. If it is on FB she will find out eventually.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

TELL HER! if she finds out from someone else she might wonder why you didnt pipe up. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

In most cases I’d say stay out of it. But if it were my best friend then I would be telling her. She needs to know what is going on, exspecially if her friends and family are on her facebook. I am sorry that your friend is going through this!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Tell her, she has a right to know, that is so rude of him!

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