Should I tell my brother his wife is cheating?

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

misskitty90 :  

Are you close with your brother? The responses to these questions are always mixed but as he’s your brother, I think you should tell him.

Also, he might not know how to check messages from people who are not friends with him on Facebook, they get filtered out 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

misskitty90 :  This is hard, I’d probably talk to the sister in law and tell her if she doesn’t come clean you’ll go to your brother. Normally, I don’t think it’s right to meddle in people’s relationships but I don’t think I could keep this from one of my own siblings.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Hell yes I would tell my sibling in 2 seconds if their spouse was cheating on them! I wouldn’t even care if SIL knew I was the one who told.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

It’s your brother. I’d tell him, but I’m always in camp “tell them”. If my brother knew my ex was cheating on me and didn’t tell me, I’d be devastated & our relationship would never be the same again.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

This is your brother. Who cares if you upset your sister in law? She shouldn’t be cheating. Tell him. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

misskitty90 :  

Your sister in law chose to cheat on him, at this point, her feelings would be the least of my concern

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

misskitty90 :  are you close with your brother? if so you need to do something, because doing nothing betrays the sibling bond. Either go tell him in person at a time when you can put everything else aside to be there for him and get him through it, or go get in her face and straight up order her to act better immediately or else, whichever you think your brother would prefer if he knew and could choose the angle from which you support him. But absolutely do not sit there knowing and doing nothing while your brother is made a fool of.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I would talk to her and tell her she needs to tell him or you’re going to.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t be able to keep this from my brother, especially if the whole town knows. Imagine if the roles were reversed and you found out your husband was cheating, your brother knew and didn’t tell you. Wouldn’t you feel awful?

I would give your SIL the opportunity to come clean to him first. But if she doesn’t, I would tell him.

Don’t worry about upsetting your SIL. She is the one who is in the wrong and ultimately your loyalty is to your brother.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

I would tell SIL to come clean or you will for her.  If you are as close to your brother as you are then he would want to know.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

misskitty90 :  um YES!!!  It’s your brother for god’s sake!  I can’t tell you how fucking pissed I’d be if I found out my spouse was cheating, and that my own sibling knew and didn’t tell me.  Do the right thing.

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