Should I tell my brother his wife is cheating?

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

Yeeeees! Send those texts.

Post # 32
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Worker bee

Yes absolutely tell him. The only thing worse than finding out your partner cheated is finding out that family/friends knew as well and never told you. It’s just another betrayal. 

 

Every day he goes without knowing is another day where he looks like a fool. Please tell your brother. 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

misskitty90 :  This is your brother.  I think you are morally obligated to tell him. 

Go see him today and tell him everything you know.  Don’t gossip or speculate, just tell him everything you know and let him know you are there for him if he needs anything.

I wouldn’t go to your SIL first as she will then know what you know and may be able to come up with a story to cover herself.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

This wouldn’t be a question for me. I’d slap her bitch ass and tell my brother in a heartbeat. And then if he decided to leave her, I would make her life as miserable as possible. Easy enough to do in a small town. 

Post # 35
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Helper bee

You need to collect solid evidence before you do that such as documented pic, text, witness. Otherwise you are creating huge drama, will be hard for everyone involved. 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I would 100% tell my sibling if their spouse was cheating

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Considering he’s your brother, yes you should tell him.

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i think you should really tell your brother before everything becomes worst

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

I’m camp TELL HIM!

Post # 40
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

misskitty90 :  

. . . but what if SIL doesn’t tell him the whole story and says it’s just rumors.

Doesn’t matter.  You have absolutely no control over what your SIL says or does.  You also can’t control how your brother handles the news.  Your only responsibility is to tell your brother the truth about what you know, and whatever happens, happens.  You are not responsible for how they choose to respond.

Normally, I’m in the MYOB camp, too.  But, this is your brother.  That requires special handling.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m normally in the camp of mind your own business, but in this case…I would absolutely tell him. 

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

And I wouldn’t go to your SIL first. That will just give her time to dream up excuses and lies before she tells him.

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee

Meet up with your brother privately and have those texts as proof to show him. He deserves to know and you need to do it asap. My friends and family are the people in my life I would 100% expect to tell me asap if something like this was happening with my partner. Don’t talk to her first. Go right to him. If you don’t want his wife to know it came from you, tell him that the girlfriend of the guy she is cheating with is who he can reference when he confronts his wife about it. She did message him on facebook so he doesn’t need to say it came from you. 

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I can’t believe this is a question? If your sibling’s spouse is cheating on them, yes you definitely tell them and show them whatever proof you have. Would you want the same if the reverse were true?

Post # 45
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

you definitely should tell your brother about this

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