(Closed) Should I tell my fiance or was this nothing?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Busy bee

Thanks for the update.. Again I want to say from my perspective that comments about your breast regardless of whether you were breastfeeding or not are inappropriate. No one should touch you without invitation. Glad you spoke to your Fiance about it and made him aware of it. 

Post # 33
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

vblanch:  Glad to see your update. Your man sounds awesome. Perfect response to your concern.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m glad you’ve got this in hand. This guy does sound like he’s got a bit of a pregnant lady fetish…

Post # 36
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Sugar bee

The next time anyone (male, female, martian, whoever) attempts to touch you without your explicit consent, the Dowager Duchess’ expression is perfect for the ocassion:

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

vblanch:  Yes, I’d tell him.  Unless your Fiance is a jealous maniac or something?  I’d tell him the same way you told us, “this happened it it made me feel uncomfortable.  You know the guy, what do you think?”

You guys might decide that this is enough to cut this guy off.  Or your Fiance might decide to have a conversation with him (since it’s his friend) to let him know that’s not cool.  Or you might decide that you aren’t quite sure what to think of it and your Fiance won’t leave you alone with him, just in case.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I would give him the benefit of the doubt since he’s been known to make weird comments and in front of your Fiance.

However I would still mention this to your Fiance. You felt uncomfortable and your future husband should be aware. 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

claroquesi:  This is AMAZING! Laughing so hard

Post # 41
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Newbee

ClaudiaKishi:  It’s not like he grabbed her boobs or said ‘Hey babe how about you cheat on your hubby with me’. Yes, what he did was a bit creepy and it wasn’t okay that he made her feel uncomfortable, but it’s very unlikely that he was actually hitting on her. She’s not only pregnant, she’s also the Fiance of his friend, AND he’s a fitness coach, which is probably why he behaved the way he did. Again, NOT okay, but I still think it’s unnecessary to tell her Fiance.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

winterbreeze:  what?

I’ll never understand people who need to contemplate telling their FI/husband stuff like this, let alone people who say “Don’t tell him!”. I tell my husband everything. I probably would’ve woken him up right then and there if I were in OP’s situation. What difference does telling him make? So you don’t tarnish his precious little friendship with creepster? I don’t see the need in hiding anything here. If she’s worked up enough about it to post to an internet forum, it’s worth the conversation with her Fiance ( ya know, the man she’s marrying?). If she absolutely didn’t think twice about this interaction, barely noticed it, didn’t give it a passing thought – no, she doesn’t need to run to her Fiance with every tiny detail of any human interaction she has that doesn’t effect her. “Oh honey, just to let you know, I  shook the hand of a business associate today. Thought I’d give you a heads up” — not worth mentioning. “Hey babe, ___ and I had an interaction last night that made me really uncomfortable. He touched me and made inappropriate comments and it freaked me out. I don’t know if he was hitting on me but I felt really uneasy about it” –totally worth mentioning.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee

He was hitting on you. Disgusting. 

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

vblanch:  ewww tell your Fiance and avoid the creep!

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