(Closed) Should I tell my fiance or was this nothing?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 61
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

vblanch:  It was very inappropriate to touch you in any way besides a hug in a dark kitchen. I would tell your FI! What if the next time he escalates the touching or rapes you? i felt disgusted reading this and I’m sorry that a supposed friend did this to you.

Post # 63
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Not ok.  Why is he touching you?!  Girl – be careful around him.  

Post # 64
3114 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

Yeah completely inappropriate. Would he have done it if your fiance was there? 

Post # 65
1326 posts
Bumble bee


You have no idea what my situation is. How dare you think to judge me and my relationships. Or him and his wife’s. “Dumbest thing I’ve ever heard”, give me a break.

Most ill-informed and unpleasant thing I’ve had the misfortune to be accosted with on here… and I believe in cash bars. Enjoy that high horse you’re on. 

Post # 66
568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes, tell your fiance.  Tell him you are uncomfortable around this “friend”.  And describe in detail exactly what happened so that your man will understand the whole scenerio.  Quit second guessing yourself.  Ask yourself if this was you daughter what would you tell her to do?  And ask your fiance that too if he hesitates.

Post # 67
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

PS- just the definition of sexual assault… 

Sexual assault is any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient. Falling under the definition of sexual assault are sexual activities as forced sexual intercourse, forcible sodomy, child molestation, incest, fondling, and attempted rape.

It could be classified under fondling… at any rate. 
He touched you in a sexual manner without asking consent

I call sexual assault. I’d think of reporting him even. Men need to learn that it is not okay to touch a woman without her consent.


Post # 68
3223 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

UisceAlainn:  I agree with you about it being assault. 

But fyi ladies, if anything like that happens to you and you don’t feel comfortable calling it assault:

1) it’s not your fault

2) just because you aren’t comfortable admitting it happened doesn’t mean the person who did it is any less of an asshole.

Post # 69
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

And you didn’t throat punch him??? I wouldn’t be letting anyone but my husband’s hands on me no less while I’m pregnant!

Post # 70
3169 posts
Sugar bee

It’s not your fault that someone saw your breasts while you were feeding your child. It’s on him for making comments about your breasts, full stop. I’m all for harmless banter, but clearly this is not what this is. And the whole “but he’s a PT” thing, as someone who is training to be a PT, is extremely offensive. It’s a profession. People go to work then come home and are normal people. It doesn’t give them license to grope people, nor should they want to or think it’s ok 

Post # 71
223 posts
Helper bee

Tell your fiance. If you feel this uncomfortable about it, then it’s something he needs to know. 

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