(Closed) Should I tell my FILs?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Pinksapphire: This is a case where the bearer of bad tidings is the one who gets burned. I would see if there was any way to get Future Sister-In-Law to slip up herself in front of them. Perhaps have Future Father-In-Law go into the room for some reason?

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@StormyRose: Agreed. no good can come from you telling, but if you can get him in there somehow, that would be your best bet

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Just ask Future Mother-In-Law or Father-In-Law to go ask her something, she’s in her room…  Nice and subtle.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

This guy is a drug dealer who has been in and out of jail, and she has invited him into the home?  Yeah, I would tell.  She is not only behaving stupidly by involving herself with him, she is putting her safety and the safety of the rest of the family at risk by having him around.  NOT OKAY, in my book.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Don’t say anything. If I were you, I would tell your Fiance & he can decide if he wishes to tell his parents or not.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would tell Fiance and let him deal with it. If he says no then let it be. She can dig her own hole.

Side note: I can’t believe she’s disrespecting her parents like that. If my parents had told me I couldn’t have a guy over, I wouldn’t have a guy over. Duh! Common sense. 

How old is she? 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Definitely let your Fiance be the one to tell. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m with Lady Baker. Tell your Fiance and let him decide if his parents need to be told or not.

And same question – how old is she?

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

How old is she?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

@Pinksapphire:Isn’t she like 20 or 21? If I were you I would most definitely tell Fiance and ask him to please say something. I would not be comfortable with someone like this being in my home.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Pinksapphire: Tell them. I’ll write why I think so later, I’m busy watching the food.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Can’t you just tell your FFIL? Who cares if she knows you blabbed, if its putting everyone’s safety in jeopardy. This isn’t just a bad boyfriend they want to keep her away from. This guy is bad news, and could cause serious problems for the whole family.

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