- 10 years ago
This has been bothering me for over a week, and Im really stuck on trying to figure out what to do.
A week ago, my friend’s husband was on Facebook talking to me, which isn’t anything new. Although, the last few times he has talked to me, there were a few inserted flirting into the conversation which I do get weird out by it, but i just ignore it and would just stop talking, hoping he gets the hint and would stop. Such flirt insert used was like “hey sexy” “sweet thing” we should have some drinks sometime…you sexy thing…sweetie.. However, the last conversation we had went like this: (friday night)
me: Why aren’t you guys going out tonight?
him: she’s out babysitting and i’m home, i rather be home to get drunk and think about you on a friday night
me: um you drunk yet?
me: why not? isn’t it your goal?
him: cause you’re not here (shoot me.. i like to flirt with you)
then the conversation ended basically with me telling him of how he should be more respectful for his wife. Then he said i do but can’t we have some fun? Then he got off line
(background, the couple married a year ago, he is from Norway, so he haven’t found any jobs yet at all, and i doubt he has been looking at all. They had a 4 year long distance relationship. She haven’t been happy in this relationship for awhile, but just deals with it. The only reason why I haven’t said anything to her yet is because lately she haven’t really talked to me much at work, and when i ask her hows everything with her and her husband lately, she’ll just say “its fine” which leaves me no room to share the fact that she needs to put him in check about being a cheater and shouldn’t be flirting around with other girls, its worst enough that its her own friend too! (yes i do have a boyfriend and he knows it and have met him too)
The question here is, do i tell my friend of what had happen? I don’t want to be a reason to split them up as i know it isn’t my business to butt into their relationship to tell my friend/coworker what to do or to say to her husband. But i just feel so bad as a friend to know such information and not share with her of what i know, whereas if i was in her shoes, heck yea, I want my friends to tell me what they know. It makes me feel that if he thinks he can get away flirting with me, who knows who else is he flriting with out there while she is at work, and him being home all day doing nothing.