Post # 1
I have a bit of a dilemma. I am 11 wks pregnant tmr, and I have a bachelorette party to go to this weekend. So of couuuurse, there will be lots of drinking. I am one of the bridesmaids, the bride already knows I’m pregnant, but not the rest of the bridal party and the other girls that are coming. My first ultrasound isn’t until next week (AFTER the bachelorette party), so I’m kind of iffy about telling them I’m pregnant…. Just in case you know? But at the same time I can’t think of one friggin excuse to why I cannot drink??? Anybody have a reasonable suggestion? Should I make up an excuse or should I just tell them? I tried to think of excuses like my stomach hurts, or (my cousin suggested this) that I’m on a “cleansing diet” but I’m prettttyyy sure nobody will believe me. Even if they say “just have one shot”, like I can’t and don’t want to risk it.
baaaah. I might just end up telling the truth, even though I’d hate to. any suggestions are welcome! 🙂 thank you ladies!
oh and my husband and I have already told our families and close friends that we are expecting… but i’m not close to these girls i’m going to be with, so i’m just uuuuggh… i feel like i have no choice but to tell the truth.
Post # 2
thelightofarose: Tell them you’re the designated driver!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. Just tell them. You aren’t close to these girls and who cares if they know, really? You have already told close friends and family. One week isn’t making much of a difference.
Post # 4
I feel like it will come out throughout the night anyway 😉
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
thelightofarose: Just make sure you always have a drink in your hand. Order sparkling water with a lime wedge – looks like a vodka soda. If someone gives you a drink pretend to sip on it and then covertly ditch it and replace with something non-alcoholic. Honestly everyone will probably be drunk and focusing on the bride, so they won’t be paying extremely close attention to what you’re doing.
Post # 6
LyndaButterfly: +100 No big deal to just tell them
But I really don’t understand these dilemas which seem common on the bee. Sometimes, you just don’t want to drink. In my circle of family, friends & co-workers, no one bats an eye if someone declines a drink. The only ones who ever seem bothered are those who seem to drink alot & want every occasion to be a PARTY. But to be fair, Bachelorette parties are occasions to let loose but I still wouldn’t thik tywice if someone said they just weren’t in the mood.
Congrats & have fun!
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
thelightofarose: THere are medications IE antibiotics that you can’t drink on. Just say you have a sinus infection or something, are feeling better, but still on meds.
That is an incredibly elaborate lie.
Just say you’re on a medication right now that you can’t mix with alcohol?
Post # 8
Don’t feel pressured to tell them! I would just tell them that you don’t drink any more, or, if you think that’ll sound weird, tell them you’re finishing up a course of antibiotics. I hope they don’t make it into a big deal — they should know better than to pry about someone’s not drinking!
Post # 9
thelightofarose: If you don’t want to tell then don’t! Just drink selzter water and tell people it’s vodka soda.
Post # 10
thelightofarose: There are a small number of antibiotics/medicines that prevent you from drinking. You could always say you’re on one of those if you’re not ready to share your pregnancy with people
Post # 11
thelightofarose: I understand not wanting to tell everyone before your first ultrasound. I would feel the same way.
I would fake it. Chances are, the other girls are going to be paying more attention to themselves and the bride. If you have “vodka sodas”, you can get the bartender to do a soda and lime in a short glass, so that it looks like an alcoholic bevy. If someone starts talking about shots, just say you’ve got to be up early the next morning, so shots are off the table for you.
Good luck with your first ultrasound!
Post # 12
kimmo416: I pulled this trick off at a big event where EVERYONE was drinking and nobody noticed at all! At one point I was drinking water and got “caught”, so I told the person asking that I was already feeling pretty drunk and was pacing myself to avoid a hangover. He accepted this explanation easily!
Another option that has worked well in the past is to say you’re having a liver function test and need to completely avoid alcohol for a few weeks beforehand. Nobody questions you on medical stuff like that — they know it’s very private and not something to pry someone about.
Definitely don’t tell them you’re pregnant if you’re not comfortable doing it yet. That is YOUR information to disseminate as you please 🙂
Post # 13
I agree with eecuadrado: DD is the way to go. Even if they don’t really need a strict Dirty Delete like you are using a bus or something, you can be the “drunk wrangler” IE the person who stays sober enough to make sure that everyone gets back on the bus.
I get not wanting to tell people. I’m currently two weeks late and going to the doctor the day of a bachlorett party. One person knows, and evne if I don’t see any of the rest of them as friends, and will only see one of them and the bride after the wedding, I don’t want to tell a bunch of people I’m not close to.
Post # 14
I know a few friends who were TTC and so cut back entirely on drinking during that time… maybe something like that would work?
Post # 15
thelightofarose: I understand why you wouldn’t want to disclose until after your ultrasound. If that’s the case, I would make up an excuse (e.g. cannot drink due to antibiotics or health cleanse). Also, (this is completely a personal opinion) I wouldn’t want to disclose such exciting news at a bachelorette party to avoid stealing the spotlight from the bride.