Post # 1
I’m having a very small wedding. Funds are limited, so we decided to invite just the immidate family only. My super sweet co-workers want to throw me a bridal shower but I’m feeling bad because I can’t invite any of them to the wedding. It is rude to tell them not to throw me a shower? Would it be more ride to let them throw me a shower? What your thoughts? Again we are having a very small wedding. No bridesmaids, no groomsmen, no flower girls…I would love to invite more people but I can’t because the place we are having our reception will require a buyout which I can’t afford.
Post # 4
I think I would speak privately with the one who has offered to throw you the shower. Tell her why you’re hesitating, and that you would love to invite everyone to the wedding but it’s just not a possibility. Iff you explain your situation, and your reservations about it being appropriate to have a bridal party, they will either agree with you and not throw you one, or convince you that they still want to. If they do, then I say go for it.
Post # 5
The rule that anyone who is invited to a shower or other pre-wedding party must also be invited to the wedding does NOT apply in the case of showers given for you by groups of people who know they are not invited to the wedding but who, proactively, on their own, choose to host a shower for you. It is not at all rude to attend such a shower or for you to graciously accept any gifts you are given.
Post # 6
@bonkeyball3: My ex coworkers wanted to throw me one too and they knew they weren’t invited to the wedding. Not because I wouldn’t love to have them there, but because we are keeping our wedding to immediate family only. I told them I thought it was so sweet of them to offer, but I’d prefer not to have one. I just would feel so guilty not being able to invite them to the wedding.
I do think if they are offering and you are comfortable, then by all means let them throw you one.