Post # 1
I want to ask your opinion on something.
A co-worker of mine is due in September and I would kinda like to throw her a work shower. Something small, maybe after work, we have a outdoor patio. I thought that could be the location. I don’t foresee my boss saying no to us using the patio.
I’m thinking something casual, potluck style and I’ll be happy to pick up the beverages and such.
The thing is we are not super close. We go to pilates together and say hi and chit chat sometimes. But there are two other girls in the office that she is closer to. They hang outside of work, etc. Where as me and mom to be do not.
She’s the first one technically at our office to have a baby in recent years, at least since even before I was here which is 3 years.
I do organize a lot of ‘extracurricular’ work activities. Such as potluck lunches, office picnics, etc so it’s not uncommon for me to organize something like this.
Anyway, do you think it’s not my place since I’m not the closest to her out of all employees?
IF you think I should throw her a shower do you think it should be females only or females and males? I know of a couple of the guys that would probably want to be there?
Also if you think I should throw it should I ask the other two coworkers first if they plan to do something before stepping in? Or perhaps co-throwing it for her?
And I’m guilty of having a little selfish reason to do this. We have no real close family or friends with kids or thinking of kids any time soon. So I do want to build a relationship with her since she will have a young child near the age of my hopefully soon to be child.
Post # 3
I think you should throw it for her! Unless anyone else has mentioned doing one, it’d be great for you and her! I think that if it’s an office shower, then men should probably be included =)
Post # 4
I’d ask the other girls whether they have anything planned. If they do, offer your help. If they don’t, ask them if they’d like to plan one with you. The more help when planning parties, the easier it is!
ETA: Although the baby showers I’ve been to have mostly been made up of females, you can invite males as well. At least, I don’t see why not!
Post # 5
I would aproach the other two first and ask if they had anything planned.
If not, then I would ask if they would like to co-host. That way you don’t step on their toes, but still get to co-host the shower.
I would also invite anyone in the office.
Post # 6
I say throw her a shower, but ask the other girls if they planned to do something work related as well. Also, let it be a coed shower so the guys who want to come can come.
Post # 7
I say do it but maybe see if the co-workers she’s closer to want to be involved at all. They may be planning something outside of work so they might not mind if you want to do something there.
Usually for our office, everyone is invited and they all chip in for a gift and giftcard from the group. Then it’s just food, cake and socializing so it’s nice but not over the top (plus then people don’t feel obligated to bring gifts or spend too much).
Post # 8
I think you should extend the offer to the other girls to see if they’d like to participate. You may find that they had something in the works already and you can just offer to assist. If not, definitely throw the shower. That will be a really nice gesture and you don’t necessarily have to be really close to a co-worker to want to do something nice.
Post # 9
I agree with everyone else—talk to the other girls and see if they had anything in the works already or if they would want to help you put something together. If they don’t want to be involved then I think it’s a really nice gesture to go ahead with your plans to throw the shower. If they offer to help, it might be a great way to get closer to them too.
Since it’s a group from work, I would probably invite the guys too.
Post # 10
I agree with PPs – talk to the other girls and see if you can all co-host. If they’re not keen to be involved, then go ahead and throw the shower! It’s really nice of you, and I’m sure the mommy-to-be will love it and really appreciate your efforts.
Post # 11
I’m glad you all think inviting males & females is fine. We’re in a male dominant field so if it’s only females there’ll only be handful of us! 😉
I just generally love planning parties!
That’s a good idea on the gift! 🙂