(Closed) Should I try to convince my husband that we should paint the living room?

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Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Well, of course you should at least have a conversation with him about how strongly you feel about the yellow color. Then the two of you can gauge, together, which one of you feels more strongly about it, and hopefully it will become apparent to one of you that it’s appropriate to back down. That’s how most minor disputes get resolved in a pro-communication relationship. If you really are at a standoff, as a completely impartial observer, I think that I’d have to say that him offering to let you choose the colors for the entire rest of the house is pretty generous, and it sounds like he really loves the yellow, so maybe it would be a kind gesture for you to find it in yourself to grow accustomed to it. Maybe you could dress it up with accessories and decor in a coordinating color that you prefer.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Maybe you should approach it with a mindset of choosing a new color together because these things can easily turn into yellow v. taupe with both sides refusing to budge. But if you put it in the context of “I really don’t like that color and I live her now, surely we can find a color together that works for both of us, let’s go to the paint store” then it might work out better.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

If it was just a case of “I painted it and am proud of the job I did” manliness talking, I would say go ahead and convince him, but the fact that there’s so much significance to it for him – his trip to Venice, etc. – totally melts me. This is something that has meaning to your husband, why would you want to take that away from him?

I suggest starting with other rooms, like @IvyClimb: said, give yourself a chance to get used to it. If you still can’t do it after you get at least a few other rooms knocked out, maybe work on a compromise – a shade of yellow that you can live with, but still reminds him of Venice.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

Sorry, I don’t have much advice but interestingly enough, when we came back from our trip to Venice in April, we immediately painted our foyer (mudroom?) – yellow, faux style. That was our main design takeaway. Then hubby designed his whole bathroom around Venice theme, including a repeat of the yellow walls. 🙂 Maybe you should convince hubby to take you to Venice if he wants to leave the walls yellow.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@IvyClimb:

I agree. I think he’s been very generous in letting YOU choose the colors for all the other rooms. Why take the one room from him in which he really loves the color?

And honestly it sounds like he really likes but you don’t so you feel it needs to be changed. What about we (you & him)?

I like the idea of accessorizing with complementing colors.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think if he’s letting you paint everything else, you should let him have one room. If you don’t want it to be that room, maybe you can pick another room in the house that could be yellow.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

808bride has a great point: maybe you can get a trip to Venice out of this! 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i painted our living room “Pencil” by Martha Stewart Living. FH isn’t fond of bright colors or yellow, but he actually likes how the paint looks on our walls. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

@EmEv: Oh cool.  You get to go!!! 

Yes, you will appreciate the Venetian plaster look after you return. I bet your wall looks something like our yellow wall (ours doesn’t have green tones as it appears in the pic). None of our visitors has commented on it when they see it in person…but we love it. Once it has more meaning for you, you’ll likely change your mind. Your mom may never understand til she goes there too.  I don’t think of it as dirty, I think of it as texture and love the way the light hits the walls and creates varying shadows. 

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