Post # 1
I was married for 14 years to a wonderful man who I lost to cancer 2 years ago. Last summer I was blessed to meet another wonderful man. We will get married in about 6 months. I want to take his last name but I also want to keep my late husband’s name. I thought about hyphenating the two last names but heard many horror stories about that. So now I’m thinking of adding my current last name as a second middle name. Has anyone done this? Do I hyphenate the two middle names? Please let me know your thoughts and experiences. I live in MD. Thanks so much
Post # 2
Just curious to know what the horror stories you heard about hyphenating? I know many people with hyphenated names and I have never heard someone with that point of view.
I think if you want to change your current last name to a middle name then just have two rather than hyphenating it with your current middle name, many people have two.
Post # 3
Margie1 : First of all, I’m so sorry for your loss. But how wonderful that you’ve found another great guy!
I have no experience with this exactly, but we did give my son 2 middle names (my last name is his second middle). We only have to use both on official documents but it meant a lot to me to have my last name in there.
ETA: The middle names aren’t hyphenated or anything. So his full name reads like this: John James Stevenson Doe.
Post # 4
I’m curious about these hyphenating horror stories as well! I didn’t hyphenate, but double barrel- so First Middle Maiden His, last name is legally Maiden His (no hyphen, just 2 last names). I have never once had a single issue, from the name change itself to legal documents to day to day life (doctors, insurance, credit cards, bank). I mean, literally not one issue ever.
Post # 5
You can totally have two middle names! I think that’s lovely. My sister added her maiden name as a second middle name and gave her maiden name to her kids as a second middle name as well. It’s a pretty common thing to do here actually.
Post # 6
I’d DEFINITELY go for two middle names in this instance. I would choose to have no hyphen between the two middle names and just have four names in a row. 🙂
Post # 7
I haven’t changed my name to two middle names but I was given two middle names by my parents. They are not hyphenated and the only issue I’ve ever had is that one time when I was a child I got yelled at by a librarian who told me I couldn’t have two middle names when I was applying for my library card.
Also many documents ask for one middle initial and I just use my first middle name initial for this.
Post # 8
Your idea is so sweet and touching. I have two middle names and have had two my whole life. Originally, I had Middlename Mommaidenname as the two. Now it’s Middlename Mymaidenname. Totally doable. In terms of middle initial, I just use the first letter of Middlename.