(Closed) Should I use my grandmother's diamond?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

@SnowInApril:  That sounds like a REALLY nice diamond, I say wear it! Use his 5,000 to get a nice setting and w-band

Post # 4
2022 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yes- use it!

Post # 5
2417 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@JessMorgan777:  +1!

If my mom offered me one of her mom’s diamonds, I would use it! Especially if it is that quality!

Post # 6
4998 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yess!!!! Why not?!? I have my grandmother’s diamond which is not only beautiful (1.5ct emerald cut, amazing quality) but sentimental as well. My Fiance got it from my mom and had it put into a setting with side stones that he bought. So it’s old and new and exactly what I wanted 🙂

Post # 7
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can’t think of any reason not to use it. You say your grandmother isn’t part of your relationships with your Fiance, but its part of you and your family, which he will be part of when you get married. 

Post # 8
4943 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@SnowInApril:  Wow, you’re a lucky girl! That sounds like a FANTASTIC diamond, and even more special that your grandmother and your mother wore it!

Here’s what you can do. Take the diamond, but have your fiance buy a new setting for it, one that you both like. It’s a good compromise that will also be cost effective for him. And you’ll get your grandmother’s diamond with a ring (the setting) that you and your fiance chose. Win-win!

Post # 9
14987 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Are you insane! I’d use it in a heartbeat! =)

Post # 10
1551 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Absolutely use it. 

It’s not a diamond that he bought, but the setting will be.  The finished ring will then have come partially from you/your family and partially from him/his family.  I love the symbolism of the two families both contributing to the ring.  Your family history and your new history as a couple will be intertwined in the ring.

And you will get a $7,000 diamond that you didn’t have to pay for?  That’s just a bonus!

Post # 11
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Absolutely!  I’ve often wished there was a diamond in my family that could have been used.

Post # 12
4143 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with GFerg – use your grandmother’s diamond and get it put in a new setting you and your Fiance pick out

Post # 13
758 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

OP – Use the diamond.  The sentimentality of it is so amazing.  Then, as a PP suggested, use the $5000 (or less!) to put toward an amazing setting and wedding band.

You’ve probably already thought about this, but considering the circumstances surrounding your first ring (I read the whole thread), I would suggest that your SO/Fiance find another time to re-propose to you, to signify the end of the negativity surrounding your previous proposal and new beginning on your relationship.  Don’t want this to continue to haunt you.  Just a suggestion though.

Good luck with whatever you choose!

Post # 14
6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh my goodness, YES.  You are a lucky duck!  I love the idea of using a stone with family meaning, but I don’t have that option either.  I agree with PPs that the setting can be the “new” part that is just between you and your fiance. 

Post # 15
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think it’s a really great gesture – kind of like your mother giving her approval and blessing. I would use it – it’s a family heirloom and by the way, sounds like an insanely pretty diamond! You can’t put a price on family!


Post # 16
1255 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - victoria educational gardens

LUCKY! I agree with the others and would use the heirloom diamond. Alot of bees have beautiful heirloom diamonds.

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