(Closed) Should I use my grandmother's diamond?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 77
Member
1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Girl use it, I have been blessed with being given my grandmothers wedding band, it does not match my e-ring, but this is the band I will use to marry the love of my life. It is SPECIAL, and it will be passed down to my first born daughter, or son if I have no daughters. 🙂

Post # 78
Member
1152 posts
Bumble bee

Using an heirloom diamond is the most beautiful, romantic thing in the world, in my opinion.

Plus it’s a great compromise. It’ll allow more room for a setting that you love while not forcing him to eat ramen noodles for the next year.

If it was a crappy diamond, I might hesitate. But it sounds wonderful. Use it! 🙂

ETA: After reading PP, I don’t agree that you should “make him pay” for a new one. That’s kind of childish, don’t you think? He’s been 110% apologetic and sweet after that mix-up, explained everything, took the blame – what more can you ask of him? Making him buy you a new ring just to twist the blade is going to give your ring a sick aftertaste and NOT do anything to help your relationship. He’s trying to move on, you do the same!

Post # 79
Member
9126 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I would use it too!  My ring was my great-grandmother’s and then my grandmother’s.  It’s very special to have such a sentimental piece to carry on down the family, and you can put the saved money towards something like a down payment or your wedding.

Post # 80
Member
1152 posts
Bumble bee

P.S. OP, I feel really invested in this story! You’d better keep us updated! <3 I want to see your real ring – soon!

Post # 81
Member
24 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SnowInApril:  Use it and design an amazing setting or band with your Fiance. My Fiance and i reused my great grandmothers diamond we saved so much money not to mention stress. Plus im sure your Groomsmen would be happy : )

Congrats on your engagement

Post # 82
Member
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

use it! and use the money to personalize it with a new setting and w-band

Post # 83
Member
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would use in a heartbeat, it’s a family heirloom! Maybe one day you can pass it down to your daughter or sons wife and it will mean alot to them that two women in the famiy have worn and loved it. 

Post # 85
Member
9834 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

There is nothing wrong with wanting to get a new diamond, go with your gut 🙂

Post # 86
Member
6738 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

View original reply
@SnowInApril:  You do NOT sound materialistic AT ALL.  I’m so happy to hear how supportive your Fiance is being – even mentioning how he doesn’t want you to settle for your grandmother’s diamond if that’s not what you want.  Go with what you want.  If the price of the diamond is really bothering you, have you considered diamond alternatives?  Use the search engine to look up moissanites – they will have the sparkle you’re looking for and the price is about $500/ct.  But if your heart is set on a diamond, then get what makes you happy.  It’s the ring you have to wear on your hand forever.  So glad to hear things are working out for you – keep up with the updates!

Post # 87
Member
2776 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Don’t feel bad about it.  Look at what this poor girl had to go through.

My own diamond vs family diamond. Help please.

I think your just feeling this way because of what he put you through.  Round cut solitaires are beautiful I have one and I love it.  And as far as the band goes. Don’t let him talk you out of that.  If that’s what you want its what you want.  Matching bands might be a way for him to cheap out again.  Not to be mean its just my first assumption due to what happened to you.  That’s too bad the diamond didn’t work out but yes bezel set pendant would totally be the way to go there.

Get your own new beautiful diamond.  Did you find one in budget?  Getting just shy of a carat is a nice way to save some money too just don’t be like this lady or we bees may start to worry.  http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/help-i-am-insecure-about-my-diamond-is-it-too-small-for-my-finger

Like we told the lady you can just tell people its a carat who cares.  Enjoy your grandma’s diamond in a pendant and your new diamond to be on your finger.  Have you picked out a metal yet?  Are you going to buy them seperate to save even more cash?  That guy sounds like a great jeweler maybe you should go back there!

Post # 89
Member
3657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

View original reply
@SnowInApril:  Hey OP, I’ve been reading this saga with interest. At first I thought you really fell into a great sitch with your grandma’s ring, one that would right the wrong of the CZ fiasco– but–if grandma’s ring is NOT a quality that makes you happy, don’t use it. Seriously. You are not sounding materialistic if you want something of quality. For that you either have to wait  until finances can afford it or go for something smaller. We all have to do that in some form.

Also, that hint about buying slightly under a caret is a good one, we did that, too.

Post # 90
Member
6738 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

View original reply
@SnowInApril:  Well, if your heart is set on a diamond, then go for it.  Honestly, I don’t think it’s materialistic unless you’re asking for something that is ridiculously out of your FI’s price range. 

Post # 91
Member
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have a round solitaire and I absolutely love it. I like the idea of a new ring that sparkles like crazy. It sounds like that’s what you like the most, and you want something you’ll be thrilled to wear forever and show off. Go with the solitaire!

The topic ‘Should I use my grandmother's diamond?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors