Warning! This is going to sound so materialistic.
We got to my parents late Friday night and as soon as I walked in I asked to see my grandmother’s diamond. I hate to say it, I was disappointed in how it looked. It was dark and I could only look under the lights in the house, but no matter what kind of lighting and room I took the diamond in, it just looked kind of dead. Now, I haven’t seen that many real diamonds in person, but I thought the ones I saw looked more sparkly. I hate myself for being so materialistic but I really felt like a deflated balloon. My mom suggested that I wait to see the diamond in daylight and see if there is a difference.
So the next day it was sunny but the diamond still did not have a lot of sparkle. Fiance and I went to the jeweler that my dad got my mom’s ring from to get his opinion. What I also did not know is that my mom had taken the diamond to Kay’s to find out the size and stats. The jeweler was really nice and spent probably around an hour with us going over diamonds. He said he would not grade the diamond an F but more like a G or H, which of course there is nothing wrong with. As far as the clarity, he asked if the person even looked at this diamond under a microscope! I looked and could see a lot of carbon spots and feathers, but you could not see any of them with the naked eye. He jeweler also said it is considered a modern brilliant cut, so it’s not an old mine cut or an old european cut but it is not cut to ideal proportions.
The jeweler then took out some diamonds he had so we could see the difference. Oh my goodness! What a difference! My grandmother’s diamond looked better in the jewelry store than at home but it didn’t hold a candle compared to the diamonds he showed us.
I also looked at different shapes. I didn’t like the emerald (no offense to anyone!) because it wasn’t sparkly enough and while I thought I would love the princesses, I didn’t like them in person. I really liked the cushions but was bummed to hear that they look smaller than other shapes. I think I like the round shape the best.
Why have I become so concerned with quality? I’ve been doing so much research on this the last few days that I’m afraid I have become materialistic and a bit of a snob!
I did try on a lot of settings too and it’s so weird because ones I saw online that I liked I really didn’t like in person. I completely surprised myself in really liking the simplicity of a solitaire. I tried it on with a round eternity band and just kept thinking how classy it looked. The jeweler had one round diamond in particular that I kept coming back to. It felt like it should be ‘our’ diamond.
I was also surprised at the size I liked. I had originally thought I wanted something around 1.5 carats but they seem too big when I tried them on, almost to the point where they looked fake on me. (Again, no offense to anyone with that size!) The one diamond Fiance and I both liked was just under 1 carat (I think it’s .96; but I keep mixing them up because we looked at so many). I was so suprised at the prices of the diamonds once you get over 1 carat; I knew from looking online, but visually the 1.25 carat did not really look bigger than ones closer to 1 carat.
Fiance and I talked about it all the way back home. He has been keeping his opinions to himself up to this point because he feels like he owes it to me for screwing up before. He finally gave me his opinion. He said that I kept saying up until we went to the jeweler that I wouldn’t ‘mind’ using my grandmother’s diamond, not once did I say I ‘want’ to use it. He wasn’t trying to talk me out of using it if that’s what I really want, but it seems like I’m settling if I use it. He likes the idea of us getting our own diamond. He really liked the solitaire with the eternity band although he was hoping we could get matching bands. He is still leaving the decision to me.
So why do I feel like I’m being snobbish? I feel like I’m a bad person if I do not use my grandmother’s diamond. My mom was at first suprised that I may not use it but she’s OK with it. She also mentioned making it a pendant like others have suggested.
So now I have more to think about. I’m going to go to a jeweler here tonight just to see what else is out there, but part of me says to go with my gut instinct and go with the solitaire.
Thanks again for the advice!