Should I use my last name on social media??

posted 5 months ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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746 posts
Busy bee

I don’t have my surname on social media at all. Just not worth it since security on most social media isn’t really good enough

Post # 3
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5353 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Can’t you just change it but make your account private?

 

If you are seriously concerned about privacy to could just keep your maiden name, is it really a big deal if Facebook still has your old name? Everyone close to you will already know your new name  anyway. 

Post # 6
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2754 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have a lot of friends who use versions of their name or nicknames. Your friends will know it’s you 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

brideandblue : I don’t want to keep my maiden name for several reasons. I’ve always really wanted to change my name, my family and I don’t get along very well, we plan to have children and it’s easier that way, and I’m old-fashioned like that!

I’m not suggesting you keep your maiden name in real life, just if you are truly concerned about privacy as you say you could leave facebook with your maiden name.  There is nothing ‘old fashioned’ about immediately updating your new married name on facebook, there are no name rules that extend to social media.  It is only facebook, you aren’t any less of a family if you don’t use you husband’s name to share vacation photos and memes. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee

I’ve never used my real full name online just out of good internet safety practices.

I guess my question would be exactly who are all these people online who are in dire need of learning your new last name that they won’t learn of it through other means…such as from personally talking to you?  I would guess that if they aren’t close enough to learn through other methods like conversation, wedding invitation, your Christmas card list or what have you that you’ve gotten married and changed your last name, they aren’t close enough to care or to need to know your last name.

Post # 9
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1457 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Make your social media First Name Middle Name? A lot of my doctor friends do that so clients won’t find them!

Post # 10
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3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

brideandblue :  I use first and middle for safety reasons and keep my accounts private.  While it would definitely have been fun to include my last name, it wasn’t worth the loss of security to me.  Like PP mentioned, anyone who needs to know your new last name will know through other means.  I do have some snafus sometimes with people I’m less close to (people who assume I took D.H.’s last name when I double barrell) but a simple “hey I actually go by x!” is easy enough. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - County courthouse

Make your account private instead of public. I used my first name, middle name, maiden name, and married name on Facebook. On Instagram, I use my first name and married name. All of my social media accounts are private. So not anyone can just add me, they need to be approved

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

If you’re that worried, don’t have social media.  Your friends will be able to keep up with you through other means.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

brideandblue :  if it’s a safety issue then don’t use your new last name. I also have a very unique name (as in, I’m the only one I’ve been able to find on the internet with it) and I use it but there is no reason not to. I had a friend growing up who was unlisted in the phone book and wasn’t allowed to put her address on the school directory because her father was a prison guard. I know school teachers and social workers who keep their last name off simply so students/clients can’t find them and try to friend them (even though the accounts are also set to private). 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

brideandblue :  I have a friend who is not on social media because of security concerns, and the nature of his job. He does not allow photos of himself because of facial recognition. If it’s about keeping family safe, I would remove any photos of my family as my friend explained social media facial recognition technology is about as advanced as what our own government is using. I would go with whatever your fiancé deems safe. Also, making the account completely private is a good idea, too, or better yet, deleting the accounts altogether. 

Post # 15
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6793 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

For those who are saying to just keep your account private, unfortunately that doesn’t always mean it’s actually private and secure. FB is notorious for things like this. People thinking they’ve marked their account correctly and then find out that’s not the case. And, once something is out on the internet…it’s out there. If you’re actually really concerned with privacy, the #1 suggestion is to not have a FB account. I understand that’s extreme though so if it were me I’d just use some sort of alias. That’s actually what I’ve been doing for over 5 years now myself. Facebook doesn’t need to know my last name. 

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