Should I use my last name on social media??

posted 3 months ago in Beehive
Post # 16
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

brideandblue :  For a long time my social media did not have my real name, both first and last were unusual abbreviations/nicknames of the first letter in each name. I also posted no identifying public photos. This was mainly because I post a lot of political stuff and didnt want an employer/coworker looking me up and getting offended something. I also had a lot of subordinate employees. My policy is not to “friend” employees or coworkers on social media so easier for them to just not be able to find me.

However when I got really involved in a community issue and campaigned in favor of a levy the other side (who knew who I was) would accuse me of trying to “hide” who I was or something nefarious so I had to put my real name up, also to run political ads on faceook you have to have your real name.

In your case I would not post, whats the point if there is a risk? I would just do an abbreviated form so if your name is Andrea Jones for example do Anne Jay… something that would be common enough that it wouldnt like to you

Post # 17
5923 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d probably just keep it with your maiden name then. That is already “out there”, changing it would possibly make it worse that now 2 of your names show up (ie if you changed it to your middle name). So i’d just leave it as is. 

Post # 18
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I have a unique first name which makes me super easy to find (I’m literally the only person with my full name). I didn’t change my last name when I got married but on social media I go by First Initial. Middle Initial. DH’s Last Name.

Post # 19
2914 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

brideandblue :  Once I took my husbands last name I updated my FB profile, but I’m not overly worried about people finding me, although I do have my profile set to private and also made it so that I would not pop up in any searches.

If I were in your position, and had a legitimate concern about my safety I would just not change the name on social media, or even just use first and middle name.

Your friends and family will know your new name, and random FB friends probably won’t really care that much or be excited to learn your new name. Not trying to be mean, but it just seems like you’re over thinking it a bit. 

Post # 22
2220 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My coworker just goes by First Name Middle Name on Facebook. Seems to work well for her.

Post # 26
930 posts
Busy bee

brideandblue :  Hmmm, if he has social media, ppl will find your page anyway. Even if he doesnt have socal meida, and they know he is married and find the name youre under, theyll be able to find you.


Id say just keep social media private, and just kinda monitor what you post haha. It can be tricky any way you cut it. Also, Id just to first and middle name as well to limit views. Or if you dont mind, go unde a random or different name.

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