(Closed) Should I wait for a proposal, or cut my losses and run?

posted 2 weeks ago in Waiting
Post # 76
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Worker bee

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@thinkingtoohard:  of course now he’s devastated, they usually are when it’s too late and good for you for focusing on your life now.

Post # 77
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Ah, so now it’s internalized sexism that keeps exgirlfriends from asking for 5 figure severances?  

Or perhaps it was OP’s internalized sexism that kept her from negotiating for her due payment when working for a business because her boyfriend owned it?   OP, if you don’t see the irony in your “business savvy” boyfriend teaching you to negotiate for your worth when you were going up against anyone other than him, but never getting around to making your gift of labor into an actual service contract or loan… wow. 

It sounds like you’re blaming the wrong people for the sexism in your setup. 

Post # 79
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - City, State

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@thinkingtoohard:  I would argue that your attitude is the sexist one. And to clarify based on your comment below–I mean you are being sexist towards WOMEN. By asking your EX-boyfriend for money to which you are not legally entitled you are perpetuating the stereotype that women are victims who can’t take care of themselves or understand their legal standing and are thus better off being dependent on men. You are also perpetuating the idea that women aren’t as smart and savvy as men because you’re making it pretty clear that you made bad financial decisions in your relationship with this guy and you can’t own them or fix them on your own. I don’t think you’re doing a big huge service to women here, no matter how you try to spin it.  You can’t claim to be an empowered woman worthy of respect in society but then ask for handouts from your ex who you are DUMPING as a result of your own mistakes. 

Post # 81
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - City, State

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@thinkingtoohard:  I’m not saying reverse sexism–as in sexism towards men. I’m arguing your attitude is sexist toward WOMEN in that you are creating the impression women are unsavvy, uninformed creatures who are dependent on men.  And if you’re insinuating I’m a Republican or conservative or something you can shove it because I’m not. You just misapprehended my point.

Post # 83
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - City, State

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@thinkingtoohard:  Never said you were those things. I said you were creating an impression that feeds into sexist stereotypes. Me pointing out how you could be playing into sexist stereotypes says nothing about my “cultural attitudes.”

Post # 85
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - City, State

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@thinkingtoohard:  Nope. But the majority consensus on this thread is that your ignorance and entitlement sure are. 

Post # 86
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Newbee

OP, I can see that this thread is spiraling, but I hope you stick around to give us an update about what happens. 

Post # 88
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2007 - City, State

Closing thread due to flags. 

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