(Closed) Should I walk down the aisle alone?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I walk down the aisle alone?
    Yes : (20 votes)
    54 %
    No - walk with dad : (0 votes)
    No - walk with both mom and dad : (9 votes)
    24 %
    Other (comment) : (8 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    If you don’t want him to walk you down the aisle, then don’t. My biological was quite abusive and I haven’t seen him since I was 16… he will be getting an invite but I will be letting him know that my mother & her husband will be walking me down the aisle.

    I don’t feel bad about it.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’d say go with your heart on this one. But based on what you shared about the relationship you have with your dad, I’d suggest walking up the aisle on your own. Good luck to you!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1009 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Alone is lovely.  I’m with you on the sentiment of the tradition.  Darling Husband and I walked down the aisle together, and it was one of my favorite parts about the ceremony 🙂

    Post # 6
    Member
    7977 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    My Dad and I both agreed that we were uncomfortable with the symbolism. My Dad and I are very close, but I plan to walk alone. I’m surprised at how many people objected to this though! to me, it was no biggie.

    Post # 7
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    3340 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    In your situation, it sounds like you should not have your father walk you down the aisle.  You can go it alone, but is that what you really want?  I’d find someone else, a mother, brother, favorite uncle, grandfather, etc.  It’ll mean a lot to whoever you ask, and then you’ll still get that experience of holding onto someone as you walk down the aisle, feeling their love and support as you meet your soon-to-be-husband at the end.

    Post # 8
    Member
    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m totally advocating the Swedish tradition here on weddingbee – walk down the aisle with your FI! The idea is that you walk in together, to show that you’re both walking into the marriage with joy. It’s also done to show that the couple is equal; no one is being given away.

    Post # 9
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    8471 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    How about a mom, stepmom, or another very close relative?  I’m a little old fashioned and don’t like the idea of brides walking down the aisle by themselves, but that’s ME.  You have to do what’s best for you.

    Post # 11
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    4518 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Definitely just go with your gut on this one. Even if you were really close with your dad but didn’t want to do it because you object to the symbolism, that’d be reason enough. That moment when you’re walking down the aisle is so sacred  — you should do exactly what you want to do.

    Full disclosure: I walked down the aisle alone, mostly because I object to the symbolism as well, but also because of complicated family dynamics (I have a dad and an important stepdad…). I haven’t regretted it, and — contrary to what my mom thought would happen — no one even commented on it.

    Post # 12
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    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I feel you. My parents divorced when I was a baby and my dad was never around (though I found out why years later). He passed away a few years ago, and my mother and I have no relationship. I will be walking down the aisle alone, because I’m very independent and have taken care of myself for a long time. I could walk with my grandma, uncle, or any number of others who have offered (my Future Father-In-Law, for one), but I think walking alone will be a nice gesture to myself.

    Post # 13
    Member
    9 posts
    Newbee

    @eocenia:  That’s what I’m doing! I hope it’s something that catches on.

    As a guest, it is great to see the excitiment, anticipation, and happiness of a couple walking together right before they are officially married.

    Post # 14
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    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Rocketzoly: I wasn’t sure how my Fiance would take it when I first suggested it (I felt like I had already pressed so many Swedish things into the wedding – getting married there for example), but he immediately liked the idea and said that he was much more comfortable with that rather than receiving me from my dad.

    How did you find out about this tradition?

    Post # 16
    Member
    9 posts
    Newbee

    @eocenia:  Fiance and I saw it at a wedding we went to and were told that it is an old Catholic tradition (believe it or not!). We are neither Swedish nor Catholic but really liked the idea. It was as much his idea as mine actually. Although I must admit that as my father (who was awesome) has passed, it was probably an easier decision for me than it would be for some other brides.

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