(Closed) Should I wear a red dress for the reception if I’m not Asian?

posted 10 years ago in East Asian
Post # 17
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s not offensive—I know where your train of thought is from (like non-Jewish brides using huppahs), but you’re marrying someone Asian, so it’s all good.

Post # 18
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I wore a red and green lehenga for our Indian ceremony in India. (I’m Caucasian)  I don’t look good in red and was told by my mother-in-law I didn’t need to wear all red, so I chose a dark green (with some red). Had she said red was where it’s at, I would have picked a red dress. 🙂

I would definitely wear the red. Why do you think it would be offensive? If that is they type of wedding you are having, then it is perfectly appropriate.

Post # 19
2 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m caucasian and I’m wearing a red chipao for my wedding!

Post # 20
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would…and in fact am!  My Fiance is Chinese and I’m Latina.  We’re getting married in China this December 2011 and having an American wedding in my hometown next year.  During our reception, I’m wearing a quiapo to honor his tradition….that was my decision and not his.  He doesn’t even know I’m doing it. 🙂

Post # 21
2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I was about to post this very same question!  My Fiance is Chinese, and I am not.  FI’s family is hosting a traditional banquet the night before our wedding, and Future Mother-In-Law has asked that I wear a cheongsam.  I am simultaneously excited and uncomfortable about wearing it, so it is good to hear from others who have been in the same situation.

To the Bees who are already married, I would love to see pics of you in your traditional red dress!


Post # 22
228 posts
Helper bee

I am Chinese and my husband is Caucasian.  At our banquet, I wore a cheungsam and he also wore a traditional Chinese outfit (you can kind of see it in the picture as well).  I was slightly worried the older Chinese people at the wedding would be offended, but they loved it as much as everyone else!

Post # 23
802 posts
Busy bee

I really wouldn’t worry about people getting offended. Most Asian elders worry about interracial marriages not working out because of cultural differences. If you did wear a red dress for the reception, you would probably get their approval instead because you are showing that you respect the culture which he comes from and are not adverse to incorporating parts of it into your life. 

Post # 25
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it’s a beautiful nod to becomming a part of his culture.

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