(Closed) Should I wear heels or flats during ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

if you want to wear heels, start practicing now.  get comfortable with them.  that is what I’m doing.  (I’m 5’2 as well.)

But honestly, don’t do it if it’s not you… do it because you want to!!!!!

Post # 4
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Wedges, girl!!!

Post # 5
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hisluckygirl22:  Honey, wear the flats and screw the haters.

Are you going to be thinking, “I wonder if other people think I look short compared to Mr. LuckyGirl?” or will you be thinking “aldjsfaslfasf I love this man”?

If you honestly think you’ll be worrying about it, I agree with PP – look into wedges or other heels that provide a wider support base. 

I just hate it when people are made to feel like somehow they’re responsible for things out of their control, especially when they’re jerks about it. I’d probably start reacting passive aggressively – a friend says I’m short compared to him? I answer “yes he is very tall compared to me.” Turn it right back around. Even if they don’t get it, it makes me feel better!

I may have personal vested interest in this topic… I’m 5’1″ and Fiance is 6’2″. But I looooooove heels, so this is the best advice I got!

Post # 6
1222 posts
Bumble bee

@hisluckygirl22:  Maybe you can compromise? I totally understand about not wanting to trip going down the aisle, so maybe wear a short heel? Or I’ve heard of some brides having a step to stand on during the ceremony. Maybe you could figure out a surreptitious way to slip something like that in? I don’t think you mentioned, but some churches/wedding venues have the front/alter raised slightly (as in, that entire side of the room/space is raised with one or two stairs). Maybe have him stand on a step lower than you if this is the case? (If your dress has a train it won’t be noticable).

Or, I totally agree with the poster above me- wear flats and tell the haters to buzz off!

Post # 8
2497 posts
Buzzing bee

@hisluckygirl22:  Like PP said, WEDGES! They require so much less balance, especially if you get a pair with a wide heel base. Also, having a platform front will make them feel less steep. I’m a heel girl so I’m definitely biased, but I really think you should heels one kind of heel to your ceremony. That way you can make eye contact more easily with your Fiance during your vows!

Post # 9
1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

FLATS!!! Who cares what others think…they care way too much about how things will look – that’s just silly. You will always be short, he will always be tall. Your wedding photos will be the *real* you. The comfortable you!!

Stick with flats!

Post # 10
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Wear flats and be comfortable! I think people just think it’s cute that you guys have a height difference, I’m sure no one thinks it actually looks strange. 

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