Post # 1
So we’re getting married on July 10, and my parents are paying for 90% of the wedding and reception.
But we can’t afford to invite everyone we’d like to, so in September we’re having one cocktail party reception in the town where FI and I live, and another one in October, in my FI’s hometown. Both will be at least 300 people, and we plan to show the video of our wedding.
Is it appropriate or silly for me to wear my wedding dress to these parties? I’ve heard people say that it is too far away from the actual wedding date, and I shouldn’t, and then I’ve heard others say go for it.
My dress is pretty formal. It is beaded lace, cap sleeve, open back, mermaid cut. I love it and would love to wear it again, just don’t want to be ridiculous if this is an etiquette no-no…
(My FI wants me to wear it.)
What do you think, bees?
Post # 3
Personally, I wouldn’t because I would feel a little weird about it. Especially if it’s a formal gown. The dress is meant to be worn for the marriage ceremony…which only happens once.
I had friend that eloped and then she had a “wedding” again almost 6 months later with a formal gown, “first dance”, etc. We supported her–but it was all a bit strange from our perspective. Kind of like the reception was an afterthought.
I think your situation is different–but I wouldn’t recreate the whole first wedding for the second party. You only “really” techinally have one and you can still wear a white dress or informal white gown…but I wouldn’t personally wear the dress again and especially not if you are going to show your guests a video of the wedding in which you are wearing the same gown anyway.
I think it would be more fun to pick out a second less formal dress anyway. I am planning on doing something like that for a post-wedding party.
Post # 4
Can the dress be altered into a cocktail dress?
Post # 5
I am! We are having a wedding-moon and then an at home reception 2 months later. I am definitely wearing my dress for both. I love it and it seems like a waste not to. I had a friend do the same thing and nobody thought it was odd. Everyone was excited to get to see her dress.
Post # 6
Thanks for your replies!
It’s not really the kind of dress that would look good shortened.
Keep the opinions comin’!
Post # 7
I think it’s kind of weird to wear your wedding dress on a day that isn’t your wedding. However, I don’t think that it matters–do what makes you happy. Personally, I’d use it as an excuse to get a dress that is white and bridal but perhaps less formal and more fun than the original dress.
Post # 8
Our ceremony and reception were three days apart. We wore our wedding dresses both times. First, we wanted as much as possible to let our reception guests feel part of the ceremony–even though it was too far away for them to attend. Second, wedding dress prices are high enough that we certainly wanted to use them more than once if possible. Our friends were far too busy celebrating with us to criticize our dress choices.
Post # 9
We had a reception in England two months later. I wore my dress again because my husband’s aunts really wanted to see me in it, and I figured there was no reason not to. People really appreciated it, I think – made them feel better about not having been able to make the original ceremony.
Post # 10
I voted “do what you want,” though personally I’d opt for a less formal white dress. I think that part of what makes a wedding dress so special is that it’s worn on one day only – the wedding day. I’d just feel weird dressing up like a bride months into my marriage.
Post # 11
If you’re having a cocktail party, I’d opt for a smokin’ cocktail dress! But that’s just me =]. I can totally see the appeal to wearing your wedding dress again
Post # 12
you’re still going to be the bride, so why not wear a pretty dress?
Post # 13
I would wear it again – I HATE that I can only wear my dress one day! If I had other opportunities I would rock that dress!
As a guest I would also like to see the bride in her dress – that is one my favourite parts of weddings!
Post # 14
I think you should get a less formal, more cocktail appropriate white dress. So then you’re still in white (like a bride) but aren’t going to stick out in a dress that’s way, way more formal than anyone else will be.
Plus, as others have said, part of the specialness of a (formal) wedding gown is that you wear it on the day you’re offically married and on that day only!
Post # 15
We are having a weddingmoon and a home town reception almost a month after i have a 2nd and more formal dress for the reception. Do what makes you happy!
Post # 16
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
We are having a at home reception after our destination wedding and at first I wasn’t going to wear my dress. Then I got so many guests telling me that they hoped I would so they could see it I decided to wear it.
As long as your dress matches the formality of the party and you don’t stick out like a sore thumb you should totally wear it!