(Closed) Should my 9 year old daughter be my flower girl or Jr bridesmaid?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would let your daughter choose her role.

Post # 4
1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Junior Bridesmaid

Post # 5
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was going to say jr. bridesmaid, but if she wants to be the flower girl then let her be the flower girl. Or still let her be both. I think you can write your own rules. Do what makes you and your daughter happy – you want her to feel happy about her role and included.

Post # 6
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would call her your “Special Girl” and have her take on both roles.  She can wear a “grown-up” dress like the BMs, but still do the flower thing if she likes the idea of spreading flower petals down the aisle before you enter.

It’s your wedding, so you can choose whatever role you’d like for her!

Post # 7
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with letting her decide.

Post # 8
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our Dirty Delete was 7 (turning 8 two weeks after the wedding), and she specifically asked to be a flower girl. I gave her the option of being a junior Bridesmaid or Best Man instead, but she insisted, lol.

Post # 9
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My niece will be 9 at our wedding and she was much more excited about being a Jr. Bridesmaid. Which means we won’t have a flower girl, I’m totally fine with that!!

Post # 10
1010 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was married 9 years ago, and my niece (about 8 years old at the time) was my Junior Bridesmaid. Didn’t bother with a flower girl, and she loved the dress I had picked out for her. Dropping flower petals is a nice idea, but messier to clean up later! Wink

Post # 11
35 posts
  • Wedding: December 2013

I also have a similar dilema -my nieces are 9 and 11 and both in my wedding-  I let them pick.  I feel a flower girl is meant to be cute and Jr. Bridesmaids are meant to be more mature-  but it is all about how involved you want her-  if she is your only child then maybe a bigger role works-

Post # 12
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d ask her what she wants to be.

Post # 13
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Hm, how big is she compared to other 9 year olds? It’s hard to tell without knowing. If she is really tall/looks older, I would go junior bridesmaid. If she can pass for younger, I would ask her which one she wanted to do!

Post # 14
900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011


I had a flower girl that was in 6th grade! She’s my only niece anywhere near the correct age, and she was dying to do it, and I loved having her there.  One advantage of an “older” flower girl is that you don’t have to worry about misbehaving and crying.  =)  We had 2 ring bearers that were 5 and 6, and it was so cute to have all three of them.  

They were all super well behaved, too.


Post # 15
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

why not flower girl? if its the role she really wants, I don’t think she’s too old.

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