(Closed) should my bridal shower be a suprise?

posted 9 years ago in Parties
  • poll:

    figure when the date is on my own

    just ask to be told when it is

  • Post # 3
    47429 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Keep quiet and be as surprised as you can be. Why spoil their fun?

    Post # 4
    3373 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Ahh! Mine was a surprise and I hate surprises!! I’d love to go back and not make it a surprise….

    I wasn’t wearing the dress I bought, my registry wasn’t ready, I was hung over, not wearing makeup, the people I wanted to invite weren’t there…

    Post # 6
    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Why would the date be a surprise? Thats ..not smart. What if you had stuff to do that day? I know when and where mine is, but thats is. I like it that way, I know how long I have to finish my registry and to be ready and I can tell them who to invite. As far as whats happening at the shower, I have no idea. But you should absolutley know the date!

    Post # 7
    5976 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    @julies1949:  I agree…you still don’t know what month it’s in, so why not let them surprise you?

    Post # 8
    1099 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My Maid/Matron of Honor is planning mine and just this last Friday she let slip the date. I am still going to act surprised though because I  believe that she put on the invite for people not to tell me. 

    I like the idea of it being asurprise because it makes it all that more special. 

    The only thing is, prior to my finding out the date, I have a pretty dress I am going to wear for it and I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor how she was going to get me to wear it on that specific day without giving up any details. She told me to just wear it every Sunday. 

    Post # 9
    1284 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Some people wanted to make mine a surprise… which I HATED. I seriously hate surprises and thought it was unreasonable that I not know the date. Luckily they agreed and told me! Haha.

    Post # 10
    2413 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I agree…just keep it a surprise…chances are when someone invites you over for a mid-day activity or out to lunch on the date you were told you will figure it out! Let them have their fun!

    Post # 11
    1794 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Let them plan the shower and be grateful that they are doing this for you! However, I think it’s okay to ask what day it’s on so you can keep your schedule clear.

    Post # 12
    775 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    In my family, showers were always surprises.  I have told everyone that any time anyone invites me anywhere between now and the time I get married, I will be thinking that ‘this is it’.  Honestly, as it gets closer, I can totally see myself never leaving the house without looking my best. 

    Huge pain?  Yes.  Love the surprise?  Absolutely!

    Post # 13
    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I asked to know the date but that’s all I want to know just so I can be dressed and ready because the shower will most likely be 2 hour away from where I live! 

    Post # 14
    10283 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Some people like surprise showers. I’m not one of those people. 

    My shower was a surprise and I made it my mission to figure out when it was. I HATE surprises, especially when they require me having to be the center of attention so not knowing the date was out of the question. Various parties ended up spilling the beans so I didn’t have to do a ton of detective work but I’m still happy I knew when it was.

    You’re going to want to look your best for your shower, atleast I did. Not that I don’t look presentable everyday but when all eyes are on me, I want to make sure I’m aesthetically pleasing (i.e. hair dyed, nails done, brows waxed, etc). These are things that are kind of difficult to plan when you don’t know when the shower will be. 

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