Post # 1

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Newbee
Iv always wanted my shower to be a suprise. One of my moms friends kind of cameout and told me the date.. so i basically know the date but not what month its in.. should i just come out and say “mom just tell me when it is” or just kind of figure when it is, get my hair done and makeup done and just assume and still be suprised lol .. what do my girls think?
xoxo lovebird
Post # 3

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Honey Beekeeper
Keep quiet and be as surprised as you can be. Why spoil their fun?
Post # 4

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Sugar bee
Ahh! Mine was a surprise and I hate surprises!! I’d love to go back and not make it a surprise….
I wasn’t wearing the dress I bought, my registry wasn’t ready, I was hung over, not wearing makeup, the people I wanted to invite weren’t there…
Post # 6

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Busy bee
Why would the date be a surprise? Thats ..not smart. What if you had stuff to do that day? I know when and where mine is, but thats is. I like it that way, I know how long I have to finish my registry and to be ready and I can tell them who to invite. As far as whats happening at the shower, I have no idea. But you should absolutley know the date!
Post # 7

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Bee Keeper
@julies1949: I agree…you still don’t know what month it’s in, so why not let them surprise you?
Post # 8

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Bumble bee
My Maid/Matron of Honor is planning mine and just this last Friday she let slip the date. I am still going to act surprised though because I believe that she put on the invite for people not to tell me.
I like the idea of it being asurprise because it makes it all that more special.
The only thing is, prior to my finding out the date, I have a pretty dress I am going to wear for it and I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor how she was going to get me to wear it on that specific day without giving up any details. She told me to just wear it every Sunday.
Post # 9

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Bumble bee
Some people wanted to make mine a surprise… which I HATED. I seriously hate surprises and thought it was unreasonable that I not know the date. Luckily they agreed and told me! Haha.
Post # 10

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Buzzing bee
I agree…just keep it a surprise…chances are when someone invites you over for a mid-day activity or out to lunch on the date you were told you will figure it out! Let them have their fun!
Post # 11

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Buzzing bee
Let them plan the shower and be grateful that they are doing this for you! However, I think it’s okay to ask what day it’s on so you can keep your schedule clear.
Post # 12

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Busy bee
In my family, showers were always surprises. I have told everyone that any time anyone invites me anywhere between now and the time I get married, I will be thinking that ‘this is it’. Honestly, as it gets closer, I can totally see myself never leaving the house without looking my best.
Huge pain? Yes. Love the surprise? Absolutely!
Post # 13

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Busy bee
I asked to know the date but that’s all I want to know just so I can be dressed and ready because the shower will most likely be 2 hour away from where I live!
Post # 14

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Sugar Beekeeper
Some people like surprise showers. I’m not one of those people.
My shower was a surprise and I made it my mission to figure out when it was. I HATE surprises, especially when they require me having to be the center of attention so not knowing the date was out of the question. Various parties ended up spilling the beans so I didn’t have to do a ton of detective work but I’m still happy I knew when it was.
You’re going to want to look your best for your shower, atleast I did. Not that I don’t look presentable everyday but when all eyes are on me, I want to make sure I’m aesthetically pleasing (i.e. hair dyed, nails done, brows waxed, etc). These are things that are kind of difficult to plan when you don’t know when the shower will be.
Post # 15

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Newbee
so heres what happened.. i totally didnt mean to figure it out.. but the date that my moms friend slipped on (which was the 23rd) i just so happened to be looking when to sched my next hair cut and realized that the only 23rd that lands on a saturday/sunday is in june.. so i kind of figured it out by accadent .. :/ but its kool.. i still dont know where it is or anything else about it .. at least ill have my outfit on and hair and makeup done.. and ill still be suprised ..right? lol ..
thanks bees
xoxo me