(Closed) Should my daughter walk me down the aisle?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Should my daughter walk me down the aisle?
    Yes : (41 votes)
    87 %
    No : (5 votes)
    11 %
    No, that's just weird : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    I think that would be sweet, but if it were me I’d have her as my bridesmaid and I would walk by myself.

    Post # 4
    5064 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think it’s a lovely idea and the symbolising you both walking into a new family together is really special.

    Post # 5
    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I voted no because I think the idea of your eight year old giving you away is a bit odd to me. I totally agree that you are more “hers” than you are your parents…but you’re not going to be any less hers after the wedding, right? She’s eight, just a kid, so it’s not like she’s stepping to the side and your husband will now be the major person in your life, instead it’s that the three of you will be a family. So while I think it would be nice to involve her in some way, I don’t think her giving you away is appropriate. I’d have her be a flower girl or something, maybe you could do the sand ceremony or something and use her, but I’d walk down the aisle alone if it were me.

    Post # 6
    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it’d be cute…

    Post # 8
    9668 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I think it would be a good idea to have her as your maid of honour and include her in the ceremony in some other way, a sand ceremony with the three of you, or you two giving her a gift during the ceremony, something to symbolise the three of you becoming a family rather than your daughter ‘giving you away’.

    Post # 9
    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @christybtobe:  I think it would be a lovely idea!  Also you could ammend the officiant’s question of “Who gives this woman away” to a question that would be relevant to your daughter.  “Daughter, you are entering a new family. Will you give to this new union your trust, love and affection and promise to do everything in your power to uphold them in their marriage?” or   something similar (the link is to a WB post discussing alternatives to the  phrase.

    Post # 11
    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I found this link that may interest you about Weddigns and blended families.  Some really fantastic ideas that you, Fiance and daughter may like.

    Post # 13
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    i think its great idea. she will feel so special.

    Post # 15
    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it sounds great… I am in the same situation as you, and in fact my 12 year old daughter will be escorting me (however we are NOT calling it “giving me away”… for the reasons already mentioned here)  When we get to the alter, she will give me a kiss, give Fiance a kiss on the cheek and then sit in the front row with my parents.  Depending how big your wedding party is, you could assign her another role.  However, we have NO wedding party…. which is why we are including her in this way.

    Hope that helps!



    Post # 16
    551 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think whatever you choose would work and if she is comfortable w/walking you down the aisle, go for it. It’s pretty cute and I like the post about having the officiant speak to her as well during the ceremony. I’m not sure if my daughter will walk me down the aisle, she is 17 and might be ‘over it’ all. I may walk also alone and have him come and meet me 1/2 way or 1/4 of the way, I’ve seen this (on four weddings, haha) and I really like it, and it seemed to touch a lot of the guests. (my 2nd marriage as well, first one was early in life as well). 

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