(Closed) Should my fiance go to a funeral with me?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

AmandaLP :  He should definitely go with you. Of course we go to funerals of those we know to grieve and to honor them, but we also go to support the family and friends that are hurting even if we’ve never met the deceased. If I were one of your family members, I would expect him to be there to support you and would think less of him if he skipped it. 

Post # 32
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469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

My husband (he was already my husband at the time) went to my sister’s husband’s father funeral.  He’d never met him.  I wasn’t close to him (I was in my late 20’s when they married and they’re almost 2 decades older than me).  We both went as a show of respect and support for his close family (brother-in-law, his brother and sister, his kids from a previous marriage, etc.).  I’d met him but I saw him maybe 10 times total at family meals even though he lived in the same city.  You don’t go for the deceased, you go for the ones grieving the deceased.

Post # 33
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38 posts
Newbee

AmandaLP :  I think he should go to support you (and your family will likely appreciate that you have someone to be there for you), but he may just be afraid to tell you that he’s scared of funerals. I know SO many guys who freak out about it (and understandably so), but just let him know that you need him there and you’d do the same for him if anyone in his family were ill. If he’s really concerned about coming off as disrespectful, tell him they WILL think that if he doesn’t go.

 I am sorry you are going through this. 🙁

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