- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017
Alright bees! There’s not much I’m unsure of but this is certainly a battle I’ve been having with myself! My fiance and I have been together for almost 7 years. Our wedding is in 2017 so it is still very far off. We live in Pittsburgh, PA and we are getting married in Riviera Maya Mexico. My family is thrilled about a Destination Wedding and his family is for the most part except for one of his brothers and his mom. His theory is if they come, great, if not Oh well. Which is fine. I am very close with my family and he’s never felt super close to his family.
Anyway, we selected our bridal party right away. I have 3 of my friends, my little sister, and his sister. Now, I don’t know if I should feel obligated to ask his sister-in-law to be in the wedding. I feel bad excluding her but she is his in law. Since it is a Destination Wedding I really wanted to keep the bridal party small. And we are unsure at this point if his SIL will even be attending (that’s the brother that’s unsure about it). We know their hesitation is financial so since he has already asked his brother to be a groomsman I feel like asking his brothers wife is just increasing the financial burden. Also we are asking their two sons to be in the wedding as well.
Also, I have another sister who is not in the wedding party. We had a family dispute and she stopped speaking to everyone and she makes questionable choices and she can be toxic to family events when she isn’t the center of attention. So I feel like if I go so far to include my fiances, brothers, wife I HAVE to include my other sister.
Every family is different and the dynamics of both of our families are making this difficult for us so please don’t judge us…
- This topic was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by BridetoBee2017.