(Closed) Should my friend report her neighbor?

posted 4 years ago in Home
Post # 3
9145 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I wouldn’t because it’s not worth the drama that might ensue with the neighbor.  Also, the neighbor could easily argue that she is only providing cakes to friends and family and not truly running a business.  It sounds liek your friends is more upset that her at-home daycare business got shut down and wants to retaliate on someone to even the score.  Unless your friend is planning on moving in the near future, I wouldn’t rile up the neighbor.

Post # 4
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i don’t personally feel the need to report crimes like that. maybe that makes me terrible i dont know, but if it doestn involve violence or robbery i keep my nose out of it

it doesnt sound like youre friend is worried for the people buying the cakes, its more “well i lost my business so why shouldnt she lose hers” in which case it seems a bit petty

Post # 5
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No since she’s not going to report it out of concern for the public, she’s goo g to report bc she is mad she lost her business.

Post # 6
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No, it’s not right. She definitely shouldn’t report.

Post # 7
2443 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@texasbee:  seems a little petty. I wouldn’t.

Post # 8
1996 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think your friend is just trying to be a bitch to “Ann”, because she doesn’t like her. 

Post # 9
7121 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Do you know for sure that it’s ALWAYS illegal to do it out of your home? Here you can do it if you have a separate kitchen and meet certain licensing criteria. From some quick research it seems as though most areas allow things to be baked in the home if they have a commercial kitchen. So that right there could be a problem if your friend doesn’t know for sure if she does in fact have a commercial kitchen.


Post # 10
1853 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wouldn’t feel good about being responsible for someone losing their job or getting into legal trouble when their actions haven’t hurt anyone. 

If your friend is concerned for the right reasons, she would talk to Ann (or send an anonymous note) to explain the legal status of her actions and recommend that she invest in a real store since business is going well. 


Post # 11
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I vote no.  And I hope that she can get the rules changed with the homeowner’s association.  There may be other working moms in the neighborhood who may love the idea of taking their child to a neighbor for daycare.  I wouldn’t like if we found a reliable person to watch our child and then had to find someone else because a homeowner’s association, of all things, said no.

Post # 14
7121 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@texasbee:  In that case I would report her. I don’t think it’s petty and I know other PPs have said to mind your own business but I would report her because I would be concerned about other’s safety. If there was some kind of outbreak or people got sick I would feel terrible knowing that I could have stepped in and prevented that.

ETA: Reading about all of the negative that could happen to “Ann”- perhaps your friend should speak to her first? This is a tough situation. I would hate for people to get sick but I would also hate for her to lose her house and business. 

Post # 15
184 posts
Blushing bee

While your friend’s neighbor seems to be taking some huge risks in 1) quiting her good job, 2) running an illegal business from her home, 3) having evidence of it posted online — those are her risks to take. Obviously she knows that at any time she could get in trouble and have her business shut down — but I think it would be rather cruel to report her. She might eventually run into trouble but I also believe in karma and someimes it’s just best to let things run their own course without getting involved. Besides, she is not hurting anyone and seems to be running a successful business. If she isn’t paying taxes, that may eventually come back to bite your friend’s neighbor in the butt without any of your friend’s interference. 

Post # 16
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Why exactly can your friend not mind her own business? Unless this is directly impacting her in some way, she should stay out of it. It seems petty and cruel to take away someone’s livelihood just because you can.



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