Should my parents go to my SO's college graduation?

posted 6 months ago in Family
Post # 2
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I don’t think they need to go. They can definitely show their congratulations and support in other ways!

Post # 3
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

littlemogwai :  I think given the circumstances of a chronic pain problem, your SO would understand them not being there.  Perhaps they can treat him to a nice dinner after?

Post # 4
447 posts
Helper bee

No I don’t think they need to go at all. I can’t imagine my parents even thinking about SO’s graduation, lol. That’s more for his family. I’m not even going. 

Post # 5
382 posts
Helper bee

I think that this depends entirely upon how important it is to your SO that they’re there. If they’re really close and it’s a big deal to him that they come, it might be worth it to push them. If he doesn’t care and they don’t seem to want to come, I wouldn’t force it. Especially considering that it might be actually painful for them as opposed to just boring. You can always plan a nice dinner for them to attend afterwards to celebrate. 

Post # 6
7067 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Nope. My in-laws didn’t go to my graduation even though they live in town and I wouldn’t have expected them to at all. And considering that both of them suffer from chronic pain I think it would be inconsiderate of you or your boyfriend to ask them to. They could always go to dinner or something to celebrate later if you/they wanted to.

Post # 7
847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

littlemogwai :  As a fellow Texan, I’d advise against it! Just get a good picture with the graduate :). I suspect your boyfriend and my FI have the same alma mater 😉

Post # 9
314 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think they need to go. Even if your SO wanted them there they have a pretty valid excuse with chronic pain and Texas heat! I’m sure he’ll understand 🙂

Post # 10
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Agreed with the PPs. As long as your soon to be FI is ok with it, no need for them to go. I would make sure they are invited/attend to any post graduation festivities tho.

Post # 11
6161 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think everyone’s family is different. My parents didn’t attend DH’s graduation because he and I were living about 12 hours away where we were in college at. Had we been local or within a reasonable distance I’m sure they would have gone.

I would think your boyfriend knows your parents well, and knows of their physical limitations? If so he should completely understand if they don’t attend. Will there be any sort of lunch or celebration afterwards? If so, if they feel like they want to offer their congrats they can meet you guys afterwards.

Post # 12
1598 posts
Bumble bee

No. most colleges I know cap the tickets per graduate anyways. They can give him a card or take him out to dinner or something to celebrate. actually attending the ceremony isn’t necessary. 

Post # 13
7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

littlemogwai :  I wouldn’t even request my own parents to attend my graduation, if it was long and uncomfortable and they had chronic pain issues. 

Post # 14
2795 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Graduations can be torturous for people who DON’T have health issues.  So, given your parents’ situation they really shouldn’t feel obligated to attend. A nice card or a small gift (if their finances permit) should be more than enough. 

Post # 15
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

WestCoastV :  lol true my husband FELL ASLEEP during my graduation! 

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