(Closed) Should people be on here when they are Single, No where close to being Engaged!

posted 10 years ago in Weddingbee
  • poll: Should people be on here when they are Single, No where close to being Engaged or Married!
    No : (13 votes)
    21 %
    Yes : (36 votes)
    58 %
    Depends : (13 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    sounds like a vent!

    I actually haven’t experienced or seen what you are talking about. I’d just take it with a grain of salt – and it’s nice to have different opinions and perspectives. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    yikes! what a b****!! what is her problem?!

    But, I must say, it may not have anything to do with her being single, perse, it could just be HER. hahah

    I’m sorry you had to experience that. =( 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    It sounds more like a problem with one person than a problem with single or unengaged people. We’ve had/have Bees who don’t have rings yet but are still wedding planning, and I think lots of single women are genuinely interested in this process, especially its DIY aspects.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Yeah, and I’m really not sure a public poll is the best way to handle it, just as I commented in her thread that I don’t think starting "general" threads that are really about specific people is a good idea. I agree it’s annoying and I understand the want of community support, but it’s perhaps something best handled by a hive hostess or Mr. Bee.

    Post # 9
    Member
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    Tennis – I think this is a pretty mean spirited thread to have started. 

    I think her original post was valid, as you can see from the large number of responses she got.

    Post # 11
    Member
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I thought the "Did you start planning your wedding before you were engaged" question was quite interesting.  I would also agree with the above poster who stated that if you are having a problem, you should discuss it with the hive hostesses.  We don’t really know what is going on between you and this other person, and can’t mediate this dispute.

    Post # 12
    Member
    44 posts
    Newbee

    I agree with above post. It sounds more about this person than their marital status. I hope it can be cleared up.

    I am ‘not married’, but I have been in long relationships and just haven’t taken that step yet. I think my opinion can be valuable to others, and I am always excited to learn new things. I’d hate to be judged just because I am not engaged.

    Post # 13
    Member
    398 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    I would think that single people as well as married/newlyweds all have something to offer in the planning process.  Wedding planning incorporates a wide range of talents and skills which don’t required "getting married" to have. 

    People being disrespectful is a different story and should be addressed through the appropraite means, such as a hostess.

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I like the poll question, and I’m interested by the variety of answers. I have no problem with single people being on weddingbee because it does have a lot of great DIYs, etc., and even though the intended audience of this blog is engaged/married women, I think anyone is free to stop by. I understand the need to vent, however, but even though you didn’t name the individual, it can be discovered, and she might view this as a similar attack to the one she made against you. If she creates further problems, especially if she contacts you directly through PM to harrass you, take it to a hive hostess to resolve the issue. I welcome all single ladies, but single, engaged, whatever, they need to not call out someone individually on the board, especially for something like saying "thank you" when you receive responses.

    Post # 15
    Member
    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think there are plenty of single, unengaged friends or family members of brides who are on here because they are looking for ideas for dresses, DIY programs/ invitations, flower arranging etc. They want to help out their friend who is getting married and I don’t have a problem with that. Sometimes they can provide a helpful non-bride perspective on topics like: is it ok to have my guests stand for the ceremony?, is $300 too much for a bridesmaid dress? are honeymoon registeries acceptable these days?

    Post # 16
    Member
    2765 posts
    Sugar bee

    First I want to say that we encourage all people of any marital status to participate on Weddingbee! 🙂

    It’s fine to post a question like this, but because the question is targeted as an attack on  another specific user… it’s example of the sort of personal attack that we do not allow:
    http://www.weddingbee.com/comment-policy/

    I’m going to close this thread, but leave it up for a while so that it’s clear what happened here.

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