- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
@weddingmaven: Which was a hurtful action, knowing the specialness this cake had to the bride, and the work and heart that went into acquiring it. Yet it is monetary, but that does not mean it was no a hurtful action that should be addressed.
This woman knew how much this meant to the bride, and that she had had to forgo this cake for her wedding, and yet she chose to not only allow her child to destroy it (something which is apparently a pattern in this woman’s life), but to laugh about it? She knew this would hurt the bride, but still chose to not rectify it, or even properly apologize. That is incredibly callous, and is something that should be addressed.
Given that the rehearsal dinner cake idea is on the table, I think asking her to repeat the intended gesture for the tight-budgeted bride was a decent idea. The way she responded on the phone shows how truly self-centered and callous she is, which at the heart of things, is why she was being addressed in the first place.
Also, in terms of etiquette, I do not think the typical “accident” mantra applies here, because this was extreme negligence that is an apparant pattern, not a one-time blunder, that caused it. The woman knows what her child is capable of, and yet did not do what she should have to look after her.
It is like if a marine punches a man in a bar brawl and kills him, he will be charged for second degree murder rather than manslaughter, because of the size and training of a marine, there is an assumption that the man knew his own strength and that a punch from him could kill, and thus he is held to a higher level of responsibility. If this woman’s child was normally very docile, she would have little way of knowing this would happen and it would be a cut and dry, straight up accident. But as it stands, she should have and likely did know it could, and still permitted it to. So at this point is not a pure accident anymore, and the traditional rules do not apply. Well, in my opinion.