(Closed) Should she stay in my wedding party?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe this is more of a friendship issue rather than a bridesmaid issue?  Try getting together or having a phone conversation that doesn’t revolve around your wedding.  Could there be something going on in her life that is upsetting her?

If you decide you no longer want to be friends (because kicking a Bridesmaid or Best Man out is usually a friendship-ending move) then you definitely do NOT want to replace her.  It might make the replacement feel like, well, a replacement.  Nobody wants to feel like an afterthought, or just be used as a warm body to fill out someone’s party to make pictures symmetrical.

I hope that you and your friend are able to open up communication!

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Post # 4
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wait- did you ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man yet?  If not then you might want to wait it out.  But definitely make sure there isn’t something going on in her personal life that might be bugging her… and try to reconnect as pals without any wedding talk.  GL!

Post # 7
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Haha, I’m at work (in a lab) waiting for a centrifuge to stop spinning so I’m hanging out on here!

I have heard that David’s Bridal will tell you a particular dress will take like 8 months to come in, but as far as I’ve heard from other brides-to-be it never takes that long and can be in within a few months.  I’m getting married in August of next year & haven’t even started to look at Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses!  I am thinking you have plenty of time with that- and when it comes down to the wire tell her what dress, what color, and the last day it can possibly be ordered.  If she fails to get the dress then she basically takes herself out of the wedding party (get her budget before chosing a dress of course).

Some of my ladies are on really tight budgets, so I am going to tell them what color dress to get and let them pick their own style.  They also range in sizes and there aren’t many dresses that all of them will feel comfortable in.  Basically, you & I have plenty of time to worry about dresses so relax, and hopefully her attitude will come around 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are you really getting married in October 2013?

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