(Closed) Should stepmom be in all, some pics?

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Is she a person who has been important in your life? If so, then yes she belongs in the pictures.

“FI doesn’t want her there in case they divorce right after the wedding, but she is important to me.”

That seems kind of callous on his part. This isn’t a woman your father has been dating for 5 minutes, she’s been in your life for 15 years.

Post # 4
5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Get the pictures you want.  It’s not about what might be “weird” – it’s about what you want to see when you look back at them after the wedding.

Post # 5
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I have kind of a difficult situation similar to yours, although my SM is still with my dad. I think you need to think about what type of relationship you and her will have if they do not get bakc together and work things out. If you feel like she will still be in your life and have a meaningful relationship I would have her in some of the pictures. I would have some with you, dad, SM and others with you dad mom,etc.


I would worry if you didn’t get pictures with all of them in some way that you would look back and regret it. If you look back at the last 15 years she probally had a pretty big influence in who you are today and supported you a lot along the way. They can be adults and suck it up for one day, or rather a few hours of one day. If you are put in an uncomfortable position day of you can always just get a few pictures of just you and her as well!


Good luck!

Post # 6
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I don’t think a pic of you and your 2 parents is weird at all.  My husband’s parents are split; so we basically did 3 sets of photos– 1 set with each parent, and 1 set with them together.  

I would recommend you do 4 sets for your wedding– Mom & Dad, just Mom (& date if she has one), just Dad, and Dad & StepMom.  That way, you have pictures of everyone, but if the split is final, you can still have pics with just your dad, and some with you StepMom too; one thing to remind your Fiance is that even if they split– this woman is a part of your life, she wont just evaporate if the divorce is finalized.  

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