Post # 1
We are doing a Destination Wedding in Thailand in January but have already sent out our invitations since we never sent out save-the-dates and wanted to include all the information necessary for our guests to make travel arrangements, etc. We have had a few RSVPs so far with 2 of those being unable to attend, but both have sent us gifts, so we’d like to send them thank-you cards. The only problem is we DIY-ed all our invitations but haven’t thought of the thank-you cards yet. Do our thank-you cards need to somehow look like our invitations, or can we send regular thank-you cards?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@WYAtocha: Nope. Your thank you cards don’t have to look like your invitations at all. Just sending a thank you card is an accomplishment these days.
I always like when the couple sends out new stationary post wedding to show they are now a couple. Maybe find some with your soon to be last initial or a new color to indicate a new start with your married life.
Post # 4
I don’t think you HAVE to but we did. Our invitations had a page with our engagement pictures and we had our photographers replace those pictures with our wedding pictures.
Post # 5
Ours didn’t match. We just bought a box of pretty thank you’s at Target, they didn’t look anything like our invites but I figured nobody would care.
Post # 6
Only if you want to put the time and money into that sort of thing. That was a no-go for me, so they got some pretty generic (but pretty!) thank you cards. While they may not have been pretty, they were sent almost immediately, so there’s an extra point for me, right?
Post # 7
I ordered our invitations through David’s Bridal and through the whole process they try and get you to order the matching thank you cards etc. No thanks.
As PP said, as long as I get a thank you note I don’t care what it looks like.
Come to think of it… still waiting for one from a wedding I attended in February… hmmmm :/
Post # 8
@Cummins59: That is so cute! Love it!
Post # 9
I don’t think anyone sends them anymore. Well at least not in my friendship group. I’ve never known the thank yous to match. The ones I’ve seen are usually of the couple on the wedding day.
Post # 10
Mine didn’t look similar at all.
Post # 11
I don’t think they need to.
Post # 12
I don’t think it matters whatsoever…
This is truly a personal preference sort of thing…
Nice if they match… equally nice if one goes in another direction entirely (photo Thank Yous are really popular)
The important thing is to send one
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TO @ALAin2014: Altho February seems like a long time ago (5 months) … truth is if the couple is doing the photo type cards sometimes there are hold-ups (pun perhaps intended) / delays with getting all the Photos back from the Photographer(s)
Certainly played out in my own Wedding…. errrr.
We could have sent “regular” thank yous… but we had our hearts set on the Photo ones cause we Eloped and so many people never saw any Wedding Photos… plus we used them as Wedding Announcements for relatives etc who live outside of our immediate area.
Six months… its been a head-ache. Must be WHY Etiquette Experts say one has up to a year to send em.
When I read that at first as an Etiquette Snob, I thought seriously ?? Now I have to say I get it.
On the otherhand, the Cards are lovely… everything and more than I expected.
Hope this helps,
Post # 13
@beachbride1216: @Cummins59: @redhead46: @AmeliaBedelia: @ALAin2014:
@FLBlonde93: @Soon2BD-CBee: @Rubbs: @BlushingBrideNYC: @This Time Round:
Sorry for this late reply! I did read all of your replies 2 weeks ago but have been so swamped at work (and exhausted by the time I get home) so I’ve been really inactive on Weddingbee, which is so unusual because I’m OBSESSED with this site! Thanks so much, ladies! I actually went to pick up thank-you cards at CVS this weekend and wasn’t expecting too many options but there were SO. MANY. CHOICES. I was surprised! I ended up finding cards that had my wedding colors – berry and champagne!!!! 🙂 Thanks again, ladies!
Post # 16
@This Time Round: Actually, it’s no longer considered proper etiquette to wait up to a year to send thank you cards (just as guests are no longer given up to a year to send a gift).
Most etiquette “experts” advise to have them sent within 3 months of the wedding. I think i’ve seen one that advised you had up to 6 months post-ceremony.