(Closed) Should the bridesmaids sleep over with you the night before?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Are your bridesmaids sleeping over the night before?
    Yes : (22 votes)
    54 %
    No : (19 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I don’t think it’s a big deal if you want to do your own thing the night before.  My Fiance is going to a hotel, and my bridesmaids want me to have a sleepover with them at my parents house.  Honestly I want to sleep in my own bed, get a good night’s sleep, and relax the night before.  Sleepovers are fun, but they usually mean staying up all night ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it’s totally ok to do your own thing! I’m only having mine stay with me because I’m close to all of them (none of my bridesmaids are from my fiance’s side), not because there’s some sort of unwritten rule.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    if ur close to them, then it makes sense to do the sleep over thing, plus in the morning when every one is getti hair n stuff done u wont have to worry about someone arriving late.. but since ur not that close to them n ur wedding is later in the afternoon, then they can just meet u at ur place earlier that day

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee

    Both times I was Bridesmaid or Best Man we spent the night away from the bride. For one wedding, we all got ready together (at salon/bride’s house), at the other, we got ready separately and met up before driving to the ceremony. My wedding was a Destination Wedding in a ski resort so I booked a massive chalet and stayed there with my girls and their partners (it had 5 bedrooms). It was a big sleepover! Lots of fun. I really think you can just do whatever makes you feel happy and comfortable – a night with just your sister sounds perfect ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
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    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Not cold at all!  My sister will stay with me the night before…but I kinda would like the alone time too!  I am definitely not having a huge pajama party with all of the girls!

    Post # 8
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think one or two of them will be (the ones from OOT), but not everyone. I don’t have enough beds for them all, and I’d really like to get a good night’s sleep, so staying up late isn’t part of my plans. Plus my sister has two kids, so it’s hard for her to be away from them. We’re all just meeting up in the morning at the hotel to get the day going!

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    yes and no – my bestus friend from college and another one of my friends i never see are both staying in the suite with me the night before, one to save them some money (one is a new mom and the other is strapped for cash – im just happy they can be part of my day!) and also to keep me company and catch up the night before. we plan on having a few cocktails and telling funny stories about each other ๐Ÿ™‚

    the rest of the bridesmaids are all married or engaged and i figure they would want to spend the night with their hubbies or fiances ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    When my sister got married last month, she and I stayed at our parents’ house that night and we also had a Bridesmaid or Best Man from out of town stay with us too, because she was the only one from out of town.  The three of us also got our hair and makeup done by one makeup artist who came to the house at 8am for a 1pm ceremony.

    The other BMs got ready at their own places and came over for the ride to the chapel.  It worked out really well.  

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I had my bridesmaids sleep over the night before the wedding. They were my two best friends, my sister and my sister-in-law.  Yep, 5 girls in a 2 bedroom condo. 

    It was fun, but I don’t think anybody got the best sleep, either sharing a bed or on the couch. 

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Ugh, no.  We all have separate hotel rooms.  I need my space and alone time, especially the night before a day like that.

    Post # 14
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I just had one bridesmaid…my maid of honor…and she did sleep over and it was wonderful to have her there! With that said, I would have gotten stressed if more then her/two people had been there!

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I have a suite reserved for the night before and the night of.  All my maids and I are sleeping there the night before.  I figured it would be easiest (and fun!) because hair and make-up starts at 8 am.

    Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Ugh, no. I need my alone time! Most likely my fiance and I will be spending the night in our apartment by ourselves (and it’s a small one bedroom, so at least it won’t seem like we’re being inhospitable.) 

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