Post # 1
I’m getting married in 30 short days and I recently asked my bridesmaids to send pics of what hairstyles they want for the wedding so I can pass these along to my hairstylist. In this email, I already provided a pic of what I would probably do for the wedding, which is this:
I was going to take it down for the reception, leaving those double braids in. Well, after sending that, two of my bridesmaids sent me these pics:
and then my maid of honor doesn’t exactly want a side-bun but she wants either flowers or a jeweled hairpiece in hers:
I can’t help but feel like it’ll be weird if either 1) three of us will be wearing our hair in braided and/or messy side buns and 2) my Maid/Matron of Honor has a louder hairstyle with flowers or jewelry when I have none in mine. Is that weird? Is it totally normally and I’m just being insecure? I’m not normally a spotlight hungry girl (middle child here), but – don’t judge me – I want the spotlight for my wedding day, just a little. Ok, maybe a lot.
Technically I DID tell the girls they could pick whatever hairstyle they want, so I’m almost considering changing mine to just wear it down instead of wearing it up. But my dress has a very intricately beaded neckline that would be completely covered if my (crazy long) hair was down. Help?
Post # 2
I had a similar hairstyle to my bridesmaids except theirs was pinned to the side and mine was in the middle (I had originally wanted mine pinned to the side, but my hair stylist had decided middle so I just went with it!) and it was not an issue at all. I had the same thoughts about it being too similar etc etc but it actually went together quite nicely, and in my dress/veil/etc they didn’t outshine me.
Having said that, I do think that it would be strange for one of your bridesmaids to have hair pins or flowers. Especially if you’re not having anything!
Post # 2
BrantlyCAT: you deserve to be in the spotlight. If it were me, I would tell my friends that they could choose any hairstyle to their liking but that you being the bride prefer to be the only one with braids. Regardless of their hairstyles, I think all eyes will be on you.
Post # 3
I think regardless of hairstyle all eyes will be on you. However, if you’re at all concerned about your MOHs hairstyle being ‘louder’ than yours, perhaps just say that you don’t want anyone to have big flowers or jewels on their hair, so she can have that style without the big add ons or pick something else that doesn’t need them as much.
ETA: I think if your dress has lots of beading along the neckline you should definitely wear your hair up! You don’t want it all to go to waste because your long hair is covering it.
Post # 4
BrantlyCAT: Lol, the second picture is the exact picture I sent to my hairdresser saying this is the type of style I wanted for my bridesmaids! So I definately like that style for bridesmaids!! One of the main things my hairdresser said to me was to make sure my hair style was different to the bridesmaids. I don’t think you should let you Maid/Matron of Honor have any flowers/jewels in her hair, especially if you are not having any. their hair style should not take the focus off yours.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2014 - Stan Mansion
Absolutely in my opinion. If your hairstyle is going to be curled then have theirs be smooth or vice versa. I don’t think they should look like you. It’s your day!!!!
Post # 6
BrantlyCAT: I think they should def look different too. I think some of my girls will be wearing their hair half up/down for the wedding. I plan on wearing mine up. Messy to the side with a braid 😉
Post # 7
I am going to let my girls do whatever they want. I have ti MN e, but probably will wear my hair down. You should do whatever makes you happy. They b all love you and will be okay.
Post # 8
I am letting them do whatever they want. I’m doing a half-up, as I like my hair that way and don’t like what I look like with everything pulled back.
I know my Future Sister-In-Law (BM) is also doing half-up, and I know my sister (MOH) will be doing something with curls, but not necessarily up. Whatever makes them comfortable, and makes them looke their best!
Post # 9
BrantlyCAT: My hair will be up and I am asking my Bridesmaid or Best Man to wear theirs down. They can choose it from there. If my hair was down, I would ask to have theirs up. I like the difference in pictures in things, but to each their own.
Post # 10
BrantlyCAT: You are going to be in the spotlight regardless- there’s no taking away from the bride on her wedding day. Even if all the girls had the exact same hair as you– I can almost guarantee no one would notice.
I allowed my girls to do thier hair however they were comfortable.
I feel like if you were going to dictate hairstyles, you sholdn’t have allowed them to send you pics in the first place. I promise you– no one will notice thier hair.
Post # 12
I don’t think it matters…I mean, you’re going to be wearing a big white dress (assuming you are! it could be blush or blue or purple or black…POINT IS, you’re the bride), you’re going to have the spotlight no matter what. Literally no one is going to notice if you have similar hairstyles. I would maybe talk to the Maid/Matron of Honor about adding stuff in, that reminds me of 00’s prom!
Post # 13
Let them where it however they want. I think the three flowers are a bit loud (I just don’t think they look good on anyone) but if she wanted a hair pin or something go for it. Honestly no one will notice or care what their hair looks like.
Post # 14
i only have two on my side and i plan to wear a high bun, so yeah, i think it would look wierd if three of us were wearing high buns. i’m going to let them know that they can have any style they like, just not a high bun. if you want to, just send back a nice message letting them know that you’d prefer if they didn’t wear a side bun with braids and emphasize that they can pick literally anything else!
Post # 15
BrantlyCAT: No one will notice. I think all suggestions are lovely.