Post # 16
It’s one thing people just don’t pay attention to. Believe me all eyes will be on you anyway. I was in a wedding where we couldn’t wear our hair down at all and i hated it especially since I was paying to have my hair done. I don’t think it matters.
Post # 17
My bridesmaids had all different hairstyles, dresses, and makeup. As we were getting ready, I nixed my headpiece and let one of my bridesmaids wear it. I also shared the flowers that I put in my hair with the bridesmaids who also wanted to wear them. Did it look weird that one of my bridesmaids had on a headpiece and I didn’t? I don’t know and frankly I didn’t really care. You’re waaay overthinking this. You’re the star of the show no matter what. Good luck!
Post # 18
Thanks everyone for the suggestions and advice!! I think deep down I really wanted someone to tell me I was being ridiculous because I felt pretty guilty thinking about asking the girls to change what they wanted after everything they’ve done for me.
The more I think about it, the more I feel like a side swept bun has always been a bit unflattering for my (rounder) face and I think I’ll pile it more on top instead. Plus for the reception, it’ll be down so I know it’ll be different from everyone else’s by then! I WILL probably tell my maid of honor to nix the blooms and/or hair jewelry because that still feels kinda off to me – potential showiness aside, it just has a completely different feel than the rest of our wedding, which is supposed to be more bohemian/undone.
THANK YOU LADIES!!! 🙂 I wish I could tag some of ya’ll but I have no idea how to do that yet…
Post # 19
- Wedding: August 2015 - country club in Michigan
My vote would be let them do their hair how they want, with the exception of the hair flower/jewel. Ask her to do something more muted like a small clip or comb with smaller flowers and a little less bling. Some flowers/bling is fine, but it should be relatively muted.
My SIL and 2 of her bridesmaids had VERY similar up-dos for her wedding, but my SIL had a hairpiece in, which made hers clearly special and bridal. I wore a braided headband in my hair, which I cleared by her first and she agreed to–it was tiny pearls braided with ribbon, and a fairly mute color so it looked nice, without standing out. My sister had tiny pearl hairclips in, which also were lovely, but very small and not bridal at all. In the pictures everyone’s hair looks great. The bride’s is clearly bridal, and the bridesmaids all have cute, but not flashy hairstyles.
Post # 20
It all depends on what the bride wants. If you don’t want them wearing similar hairstyles, go ahead and ask them to pick a different style.
People say that nobody will notice if the hairstyles are the same, but that’s neither here nor there. When it comes to weddings, not everything is for the benefit of or dependent upon the memories of others. If it bothers the bride, she can decide to change it, as long as it’s possible and within reason, and hairstyles certainly fall under that category.
Post # 21
i dont understand how this is even a question. I personally dont like it when brides plan every little detail about their bridesmaids. The dress and the shoes is enough. Let them do their hair howver they feel beautiful. I my opinion that’s nothing to stress about Either way the spotlight will be on you
Post # 22
MrsGlover: I’m paying for my hairstylist to do my bridesmaids’ hair so that’s the only reason I had to ask all of them what they wanted. She needs to figure out how long each hairstyle will take her and, therefore, when she has to arrive on the day of. I let the girls pick out their dress (they came to an agreement on one), their shoes, their jewelry….and their hair! I’m not trying to tell them how to do their hair, I’m just worried mine will look exactly like theirs. Overreacting? Sure, maybe.
Post # 23
BrantlyCAT: I don’t think it matters…