(Closed) Should the couple pay for guests’ accomodations?

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 3
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

If you can afford to it would be a nice thing to do, but it’s not your responsibility. On that note, if you don’t, you can’t insist everyone stay at the same place as some people might want to stay somewhere more economical.

Post # 4
2641 posts
Sugar bee

 I agree with marigold. 

Post # 5
1428 posts
Bumble bee

Yup….if you can afford it that’s wonderful, but I never expect the couple to pay for my hotel room when I have to travel to a wedding.
Maybe, (again if you can afford it) you could offer to pay for one night or offer to pay for your parents’ rooms, but don’t feel obligated by any means.

Post # 6
96 posts
Worker bee

I think if you really want to have everyone stay in the same place and give them no other options it would be good to pay for the rooms.  However, I don’t think it’s ever assumed that the bride and groom will foot the bill for accommodations — you definitely don’t have to if you don’t mind that some may not stay at the same place.

Post # 7
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think you are obligated to at all. It’s nice if you do, but I would never expect it.

Post # 8
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Mr G is in a wedding next June and the B+G are paying for our hotel for 2 nights… I was floored with gratitude. That was so generous of them– it was not expected or anything. We’re going to offer to pay for at least one of the nights, but the thought was so nice.


So, I’m sure your families will really appreciate the gift of the rooms, but don’t resist too much if they offer to pay a little 😉

Post # 9
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Gee I sure hope not!

Post # 10
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)

I agree, you are not responsible to pay for everyone… heck thats alot of money.
Its rare the bride and groom pay the accomodation. So I would only offer one place to stay, that way everyone will be in the same place.

Maybe offer a redemption coupon, say 25$ off each room courtesy of the bride and groom.


Post # 11
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Good idea flamingo! Are you required to fill all the rooms at the location due to your wedding being held there? I know some B&Bs require this. It’s a bummer when the site is beautiful, the price is within reason, but if you have to pay $$$ for the lodging then it gets up there. Fiance and I found a spot that we loved, but it was going to cost us almost $2k in lodging for 14 people. Can’t do it. Would be nice but can’t. Plus, half of my family is silly and will drive the 5 1/2 hours to come out here and then turn around and go home….seriously, dumbest thing!

Post # 12
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m with Marigold (and others). I think if it’s obligatory to stay there, you should probably pay, but if they have the option then it’s not required.

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