(Closed) Should the honeymoon be straight after the wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Did you/will you go on your honeymoon straight after your wedding
    Yes, we went straight away or close to the wedding : (52 votes)
    69 %
    no we left it a few months or longer : (23 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I think the honeymoon was originally for a couple who married who didn’t live together before. To get to know each other. But nowadays I noticed that honeymoons are for when the couples can schedule the time off at the same time (usually both have jobs)

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    We went straight after our wedding. It took ALOT out of me. I was already exhausted from barely sleeping during my wedding week. I woke up the day after my wedding with a massive migraine, and no meds to help. I still LOVED the time I had with my husband, but waiting a week, month, etc would of been much more ideal for my planner self.

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    lamington:  Personally, I cant imagine not going on a honeymoon right after the wedding. Thats, of course, my personal preference. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    We are getting married in late June, but are waiting to do our honeymoon until August or later. One of the reasons is that it works better with my work schedule to take off more time later in the summer, but the main reason is that we just want to be able to relax and it feels like it will be too hectic and will be harder to relax and plan comfortably if we go right after the wedding. 

    We are planning to do a mini “honeymoon” right after the wedding (taking maybe a couple of days off work and either driving up to a cabin a couple of hours away or just staying in a hotel nearby for a 2 day “stay-cation”). We’ll do a longer honeymoon (1.5 weeks or so) later on when we can focus on planning and getting ready for that trip instead of having all of the pressure of the wedding piled on it. Also, we get more out of our vacation time waiting – if we do it later, we can leave on Friday night or Saturday for the honeymoon, getting 1.5 weeks by taking fewer days off work since we aren’t waiting to leave until later in the weekend like we would have to do if we went right after the wedding. We also have people coming into town that we don’t see often and would like to spend Sunday after the wedding with them since they are coming in, so we wouldn’t be able to leave for a honeymoon until Monday. Finally, I also kind of want there to be less pressure on the honeymoon, I’m a somewhat private person and I like the idea of doing the wedding and then staying home and dealing with stuff (paperwork, clean up, etc) and then going on the honeymoon later when people aren’t focused on us being on a honeymoon, emailing/texting/facebooking and asking if the honeymoon was all we dreamed and more – but that’s just me and a minor side reason.

    That’s just our preference/perspective. I think you should do it after the wedding if that’s important to you!

    Post # 6
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Getting married in April. Probably won’t have a honeymoon until around September. We both work and it’s hard to take off a lot of time in a row. So since we have to take off some time for the wedding, we’re spacing it out with when we take off for the honeymoon. 

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    We are taking a weekend getaway the weekend following the wedding to Niagara Falls, but planning an elaborate “honey moon” a year year later. We really want to go on an extravagant cruise in Europe but will have a five month old and a two and a half year old and it would be too hard to leave them both for so long. 

    Post # 8
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    1325 posts
    Bumble bee

    I chose the wedding date to fit in with the best time for my honeymoon. 😀

    We went 6 days after our wedding, gave us time to sort out thank-you cards, gifts etc. Plus my husband wasn’t allowed more than 2 weeks off at once, so it was good to have time between the wedding and the honeymoon. 

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    For us it was just a timing thing.  We planned our honeymoon for a few months after because I had my winter break and it was a slower time for him at work.  So it all worked out.  It was nice to not stress about the honeymoon right after the big wedding too.  We did go for a weekend getaway right after, which was really nice.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee

    We went the next day! While I think we should have taken one day in between…honesly I think it was best because wedding plannning is exhausting! 

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015 - Loft in the city

    We got married Nov. 6th of this year.

    We are going on our honeymoon on Dec. 19th of this year.

    We had planned on going the day after the wedding but my gut told me to postpone it. I’m glad I did! The excitement and nerves I felt during my wedding week finally caught up to me the day after! lol… We were both EXHAUSTED! 

    We spent the next day with the bridal party then the day after that with our family before we all went our separate ways and went home (various states)

    it took a week to finally rest up and feel like a person again 😁 We will be leaving for our honeymoon in another week and half and I am SOO excited! something else to feel excited about. 

    It’s different for everyone but my personal experience I am glad I waited a month. 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee

    I think we’re going to go on a shorter, domestic, lay-on-a-beach vacation right after the wedding, and then a longer, international, trip-of-a-lifetime type thing several months afterwards. Our main reason for doing it that way is money, but I’m also concerned about being too exhausted right after the wedding to enjoy a big sightseeing trip. We’re also getting married in prime hurricane season for the Carribbean, so unfortunately it rules most of those places out. I’d be interested to hear from bees who “delayed” their honeymoons if they felt different.

    Post # 13
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    Newbee

    We didn’t have a honeymoon planned, but we knew we would eventually get around to it and try to schedule one 4-5 months after the wedding when we were in our slow season for our business……well,  3 months later, I am pregnant lol. We still may go on one, but it has now turned into a Babymoon…. If I could do it over, I would have done it RIGHT after the wedding..or used birth control lol

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If at all possible yes, right after. Theres no recreating the experience and energy of being married days ago. We had (out of state) wedding Saturday, honeymoon Monday and it was perfect. 

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    We wanted to go right after, but since I am kind of set on a tropical vacation, we’re going in November instead. The fall is wet/hurricane season basically everywhere that’s beachy. 

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