(Closed) Should the ring be one you like or does your SO need to like it too?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Is it more important you like your ring or your SO likes it?
    You should like it the most - you're going to be wearing it! : (124 votes)
    54 %
    Your SO needs to like it : (15 votes)
    7 %
    You should both like it equally : (88 votes)
    38 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 17
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Ms_Purple:  I like that ring!! Is that wrong, lol!

    Post # 18
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    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @kellym83:  Fi has no real insight. Unless its a horribly hideous ring he just says “that ones nice”. He is more concerned that I like it, even if he hated it and I loved it he would want me to be happy. Luckily becuase i don’t like the type of rings that produce  a reaction ring shopping was easy

    Post # 19
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    475 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I know this sounds mean, but it is MY ring. I really didn’t care at all what his opinion of it was! Haha.. But he actually really liked what I chose anyway.

    Post # 20
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    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @kellym83:  I think you should be the one to like it. You’re going to be wearing it for the rest of your life, not him. My fiancé didn’t say anything to me when I told him what my dream ring was, he just went out and bought it. 

    Post # 21
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    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Ms_Purple:  Whoa! I know someone who would totally have a ring like that if she and her Fiance had known it existed lol.

     

    My Fiance picked out my ering, but when it came to shopping for my wedding band we disagreed a little bit. I wanted something simple and dainty and he wanted to get me something more substantial and blingy. I also wanted to mix metals and he was completely against that idea. Its not like it broke my heart or anything that he didn’t have the same vision that I did, but I was disappointed. When we went to look at them in person he actually loved what I had in mind so it worked out. If he had still hated it I would have compromised and chosen something else – not the one he wanted, but something that we both liked.

    He took my opinion into consideration when picking out his band too, otherwise he’d have some superhero themed monstrosity on his finger.

    Post # 22
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    1649 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    I think both should love it equally, Fiance should pick it with partners best interests in mind given their tastes. 

    Post # 23
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    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I went with “you should like it equally” but I think you should both lile it but it’s more important for the person who has to wear it to like it.

    Post # 24
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    3101 posts
    Sugar bee

    @kellym83:  I firmly believe that the person who wears it needs to love it!  Should you pick a ring your SO hates?  No.  Should he pick a ring you don’t like?  NO!

    Post # 25
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    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I had the same problem. My SO didn’t like most of the rings I fell in love with, and I fell in love with quite a few. I finally came across one that we both loved. I just had to keep searching. His opinion meant a lot to me and I wanted for him to love my ring just as much as I did. It got a little frustrating at times though, that’s for sure.

    Post # 26
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    157 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2008

    We went to the jewelry store together but I picked out my own ring. My husband didn’t really give any input. In the end it had to be something I liked as I was the one who would be wearing it. 

    Post # 27
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    2776 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @MrsBaldEagle: Yup I concur.  I really wanted a solitaire with a 1ct or maybe a little more diamond, when we made plans to get married he told me that he couldn’t afford what I wanted, I told him that’s okay but I need to have something to show that we are getting married so I told him just go get me a white solitaire from walmart or something and we’ll switch it out for the real deal later.  

    It turned out that was a ruse and Fiance had already figured out a way to get me what I wanted lol he just wanted it to be a surprise and boy did he catch me off guard.  He told me had waited to discuss it again seriously until he knew he could afford what I wanted as he “couldn’t live with himself” if he had gotten me anything less than what I wanted.  I thought that was some what masochistic but incredibly sweet of him. 

    So yes a ring should be what you would like and something that he can be proud to have you show off so he can “live with himself.”

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I voted something you should love more because you’re the one wearing it. At the same time he needs to at least like it and be happy with the choice as well.

    Post # 29
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    2598 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @kellym83:  My husband had definite opinions about my ring. Luckily, we were in agreement about what we wanted and both loved the ring he eventually bought me.

    In my opinion if the guy is buying the ring, he gets a say. If one wants to have total control, and dictate size, specs, budget then they should buy their own ring.

    I’ll be honest, I find the sense of entitlement some women have regarding their rings off-putting. 

    Post # 30
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    6107 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We both like my ring. He liked round diamonds and I liked cushion halos, so that’s what I got and I couldn’t be happier 🙂

    Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    For me, it was important that my fiance liked the ring. So we picked one with features that we both liked!

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