Should there be dancing?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
298 posts
Helper bee

Is it a small wedding?   If so,  I say go for it.   People love dancing at a wedding.   I went to a wedding once where the couple were extremely religious and didn’t allow dancing.   It was the most boring thing I have ever gone to.  I think it would be better to have a dance floor already carved out if you can swing it.  Otherwise I would rather move a few tables around then have nothing to do. 

Post # 3
741 posts
Busy bee

franfran711 :  I have never been to a wedding that didn’t have dancing so it would be really weird to me. However day time weddings without a sit down meal aren’t common here so that’s probably why. 

Why wouldn’t you want there to be dancing? I say go for it, it doesn’t sound like too much effort to work it in to the day and then those that want to can take part. 

Post # 4
9893 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’ve been to a few weddings similar to yours. None of them had dancing. People mingled and talked. It was enjoyable and I don’t think the dancing was really missed. I honestly think it would have felt pretty out of place.

Post # 5
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I’ve attended plenty of weddings without dancing, mostly for couples in their early 20s just having finished or about to finish college.  Believe it or not, people still had fun – they talked, they got to know their friends’ families, they ate and laughed and enjoyed themselves.

If you don’t want dancing, don’t have dancing.  If you don’t have room for dancing, definitely don’t have dancing.  Depending on how you’re considering moving the tables around, if it’s a small space, you’re probably going to be violating fire codes and city ordinances left and right.

Post # 6
1565 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We didn’t have dancing at our wedding and I don’t think anyone minded. We did have a shorter reception than most, 3.5 hours including cocktail “hour” (more like 45 minutes).  It was an evening reception with a buffet dinner and by the time we got done with dinner and dessert our time was basically up. We had an open bar with a huge beer list so most of our guests seemed content trying new beers, eating, and socializing. We’d hoped to have dancing but didn’t have the budget for a DJ, and the sound system in the venue turned out not to work very well so we couldn’t use the playlist we’d prepared. It wound up being OK since I think we would have felt rushed trying to squeeze in dancing. So no, dancing is not required and your guests can have a good time without it. I mean, haven’t you gone to non-wedding parties that didn’t have dancing but you still had plenty of fun? Don’t stress about it if it’s not something you want to include.

Post # 7
866 posts
Busy bee

franfran711 :  I’m all about the dancing! I even dance in the streets and I love when ppl also dance in the street. However, if I were to be invited to an afternoon wedding I’d imagine I’d be something with tea, summer dresses, and mingling. It’d still be fun! Just a different vibe. Will you be serving any wine or mimosas? I’d enjoy acouple wines in the sun, eating some finger foods and mingling lol kind of like a nice wine tasting.

Post # 9
35 posts
  • Wedding: September 2017

We’re not having dancing because it’s a daytime wedding, and… I don’t like dancing.  Instead, we’re having lawn games, or board games if it rains.  If you have any cute games to do, like the shoe game, that might help break things up so it’s not just an unbroken stream of time where guests have to figure out how to amuse themselves.

Post # 10
3451 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

We’re not having dancing bc it’ll be early afternoon in a park and that just seemed like a weird combo for dancing but people are free to cut a rug on the grass if they want since Fiance again flip flopped and decided to keep the DJ. ๐Ÿ˜’ We’ll see how it goes but I won’t miss the dancing since its not my thing.

Post # 11
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I encountered the same situation – told everyone it would be a dinner reception and had a ot of questions about whether there would be dancing. Eventually, I put a FAQ on my wedding website, but apprently people are supposed to know from the words “dinner reception” that there will be no dancing.


We’re not having dancing either because neither of us dance and want to make a fool of ourselves

Post # 12
2729 posts
Sugar bee

I think that because it’s a day reception it makes sense not to have it. I would have music though and then if people really want to dance they can always start impromptu dance parties. I feel like dance parties are usually best when there’s been a solid amount of drinking beforehand which usually doesn’t happen with day-time events like that. Not that everyone needs to be drunk to dance, but many people need to at least be a bit buzzed – so in order to fill out the floor it’s generally better haha. Better to have an area that COULD turn into a dance floor if people felt like it, but wouldn’t look pathetic and neglected if no one was dancing. 

Post # 13
3855 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

For a 2-3 hour reception no dancing is fine. My friend’s wedding didn’t have dancing, it meant people didn’t stay super late but they definitely stayed for 3 hours. 

Post # 14
527 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Considering your situation (short in length, day-time, stand-up) i think no dancing is fine. Since it’s not a lengthy and drawn out reception I doubt people will get bored.

They will eat, mingle, chat, and nibble on food. Before they know it, it’ll be over.

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