(Closed) Should they be invited to the rehearsal dinner…

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Fiance discussed it and we’re including the Wedding Party, grandparents (possibly bc my grandparents aren’t doing well), Father-In-Law, my parents and maybe a few people from out of town, but that’s it. We’re not inviting any of my aunts/uncles or FI’s siblings because there would be way too many people there.

Post # 4
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Perhaps your Fiance could talk with his parents and explain that your grandmother requires a “caregiver?”  If she NEVER travels without her, that is essentially the role she is playing.  I doubt they’d say no if you phrased it that way.  Depending on how old your niece is, that may then give a little leeway to allow her to be invited as well.  If she’s old enough to be alone during the Rehearsal Dinner, then don’t push for the niece.  If not, then insist.  You need to advocate for your family.  Just because they are hosting doesn’t mean you can’t explain reasonable additions to the guest list.

Post # 6
2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Do you and your Fiance have a lot of aunt and uncles?  If so, I kinda see your FMIL’s concern about offending the un-invited aunts and uncles.  However, I would just explain to Future Mother-In-Law that your grandmother likes to travel with your aunt. Tell her that you’re hoping she’d be allowed to attend out of respect for the grandmother.  Do you think that your mom would be willing to pay for the aunt/neice to attend?  That could also help the situation if money is a concern of your Future In-Laws.

As for the half siblings, I think it just depends.  Fiance has step brothers who are not going to attend as they’re not directly involved in the wedding. He assumes there’s not much reason for them to be there since they won’t be taking part in the ceremony rehearsal.  I know other people who invite their entire family to the rehearsal dinner, however.  It just depends on who is throwing it!

Post # 8
1518 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you think there feelings would be hurt and/or you want them there offer to cover their costs. Maybe its the price that is keeping your Future Mother-In-Law from wanting to add to the guest list. Rehearsal dinners are a great way to include people you care about in the wedding weekend; regardless if they are involved in the actual ceremony!


It sounds like your Future Mother-In-Law should be more understanding of the travel circumstances… I would defiantly try to explain it to her and voice your concern! 

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