(Closed) should they be responsible for their attire?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

umm no.. I dont think its bad, I think its kinda expected if they said yes to being a groomsmen. If its a financial burden on them tho, I would say.. i.e buy them the shirt and tie, socks, belt, cufflinks… and then I dont think its such a burden for a suit. Most of their partners would probably love for them to have their own suit.
I know everytime my man is a groomsmen I jump at the chance for him to get a new suit. We head to alot of weddings, and its always a familiar crowd so him having other suits puts a variety into it otherwise he will be wearing the same suit for the next 20 years lol!

 

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah you should, however I would actually look at the cost of renting a tux to buying one.

We looked at renting.. and it was $126 aus dollars per person. For us it was cheaper to buy and we got them for $99.00 and it was a standard black suit. Hubs bought his suit in charcoal tho, he wanted to stand out a little and his suit we saw as an investment..

Heres a pic of the suits. Not the best photo tho but it gives you an idea of what you can get!

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

probably! but i think it all depends on the fabric. like when you went shopping for the groomsmen suits I would tame his marine blue pants and find something similar. Black comes in all differant shades these days!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If your BMs are all wearing matching dresses, then it would look weird if the Groomsmen weren’t in matching suits.  Some simple black suits like ccranetobe’s picture would be a great choice!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think you should ask yourself – he is the groom, they are his groomsmen, and whether he likes it or not, it’s his responsibility to ask them.  It’s his wedding too.  I’m sure they can rent grey suits (which will compliment the blues) at a reasonable price.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If I was your fiance, I’d be angry if you went behind my back and asked the Groomsmen to rent a tux. If he is adamant about not having his groomsmen rent a tux, I think you should respect that. After all, you got to pick your bridesmaid’s attire, so shouldn’t he have that same opportunity with his groomsmen? I have seen many weddings with the groomsmen in mismatched suits, and honestly, nobody will ever notice.

 Can you discuss it with your fiance and maybe just ask the groomsmen to wear a black suit they already own, and maybe pick out a matching shirt and tie you can ask them to buy, or purchase for them as a gift? 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

um, you definitely need to ask them to rent/buy suits/tuxes. I think it will look silly if your girls match but your guys don’t. We got our tuxes at men’s wearhouse for $120 each, and all you pay down is $20, and you don’t pay the rest til the day of pickup. It includes everything: shirts, shoes socks, cufflinks and the suit. We got our guys measure 2 months out, that way they’d have 2 whole months to come up with $100. I don’t think that is unreasonable at all!

I think solid black tuxes with a red tie would look great for your day!

Post # 15
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Honey bee

Unless you specifically offer to pay (and can afford to do so), attendants are responsible for paying for their own attire, accessories, etc. The only things they don’t pay for themselves are flowers.

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