Post # 32
in my eyes in the negative scenario where the bride was directly responsible for the wedding being off; you spent that money on a promise of spending that day together / celebrating that day. It is almost similar to an engagement ring in that sense, like if a bride called off a wedding b/c she cheated on the groom, you’d expect her to return the ring, right? why not at least offer to compensate the people who are closest to you, that are out a good deal of money. I had already spent $1350 on wedding related events prior to being out of this wedding…. so it isn’t exactly a drop in the bucket. For me it wasn’t expected, but would have certainly made it sting a little less.
Post # 33
Wow, that’s terrible! I’m sorry that situation even came about. And $1350 is a lot of money that you had to spend! I bet there were probably bad feelings on either side; maybe the bride was pissed you guys didn’t let what she did slide, and you guys were pissed that she didn’t have the courtesy to handle the situation tactufully. It’s too bad.
Post # 34
As a bridesmaid, I’d much rather eat the cost of the dress and make sure my friend was okay… even if she was the reason the wedding was called off (she cheated or something), I wouldn’t feel comfortable bringing it up.
As a bride, I’d apologize and offer to reimburse them if I could afford it.
Post # 35
Etiquette-wise, the bride and groom are responsible for any attire costs of the bridal party if the wedding is flat out cancelled.
That said, I’m sure the bride is going through an emotional time right now. If I were in the bride’s shoes, I’d say something like “Sally, I wish I could pay you back for the dress you so graciously bought. Maybe I can try to sell it for you and you can recoup some of the costs.”