Post # 1
I am posting this in the family section because it is really a family issue, well, sibling issue.
My cousin has 3 amazing daughters, ages 11, 9, and 6. The two oldest are going to serve as junior bridesmaids and the youngest will act as a flower girl at the wedding between PenguinGuy and myself. They are all obviously old enough to not be a problem at or during the ceremony or reception, as they are incredibly well behaved. My problem is that after the ceremony the wedding party will leave in limos to go take pictures before the reception.
It isn’t that I don’t want them to ride in the limos with the rest of the wedding party, but I am concerned having someone as young as the flower girl with a bunch of strangers, she only knows my Maid/Matron of Honor and myself and even then not incredibly well. I think that hte older two girls would be fine in the limos, but someone as young as 6? I could ask that her mother drive to the photo location, but I don’t want her to feel excluded. I also hesitate to ask the mother to drive all 3 of them because I have a feeling that the older two would like to be with the “big girls” during the day of festivities.
What should I do?
Post # 3
Maybe could you have her mother go with her in the limo? I’m not sure if you have room but since you are already transporting her other 2 daughters.
Post # 4
Yeah I wondered about something like this too. I would definitely have the jrs ride in the limo, but I agree with MissAsB – I’d either have her mom come in the limo too or drive her separately… If there ends up being an issue there, you’re not going to want to have to deal with it right then…
Post # 5
Can you take photos with EVERYONE at your ceremony location and then only take your wedding party to your photo location? I’ve actually never heard of anyone bringing the flower girl along for photos, which is why I ask. Are you doing photos with families and stuff? Often these photos you take at the ceremony location since everyone will be there, and then the bride, groom, and wedding party would take off for wedding party photos. I don’t think flower girls or ring bearers are usually included in those, so you could just not include the 6-year-old to get around it. I wouldn’t think anyone would think that was strange.
Post # 6
Unfortunately, space inthe limos is already pretty tight.
And before anyone asks or suggests, no, we can NOT switch to a party bus and/or bigger limo or get another limo. This was pretty much the ONLY thing on which PenguinGuy was unwilling to compromise.
So, if the girls ride we don’t have room for the parent. 🙁 stupid giant wedding party…lol
@adira, it isn’t so much that the flower girl needs to be at the picture location since we are doing picturs at the church first, but it is more that her sisters would be going to take pictures as junior bridesmaids and it feels awkward to split the three of them up.
Post # 8
I think it depends on your flower girl. Talk to her mother and see if her mother is comfortable with her in the limo. I have a five year old who would LOVE to ride in the limo…to him everyone he meets is his friend, Also remember, the flower girl will actually know four people, you, your Maid/Matron of Honor, and her two older sisters.
I really think a lot depends on the child. Maybe let her mother decide…after all she knows the child best.
Post # 9
If her two sisters are there maybe she will be fine. Why not ask her mom what she thinks.
Post # 10
I was going to have the smaller members of my wedding party (the two flower girls, bell ringer, and ring bearer) ride separately over to where we’re taking pictures. Since the parents wont be in the limo, we’re going to split them up.