Post # 1
I know that if someone were to get married on my birthday, I wouldn’t really have a problem with it. But that is me, and everyone reacts differently to certain things. I just thought that my family woud react differently.
My wedding date just so happens to be my uncles birthday (I had completely forgotten that he shared the same date as my mother, who had passed away when I was really little). I let my aunt and uncle know, and my older cousin of the wedding date. But not they haven’t talked to me since, and made comments to other family members about it GASP, being on the same date as my uncles. I would have hoped that they would have expressed this before I made major decisions like pay for the photography and the band to play on that day.
Oh well, I’m pretty sure that things will blow over, but right now it’s really hurtful.
I just wanted to vent with this post, and maybe get some advice. I know I already ased a question like this when I first picked the date, but I didn’t get a reaction from family yet.
Post # 3
@Mrs.Sunflower:I’m sure they’ll get over it eventually. After all … they’re your family. They love you and they’ll do what they can to be there on your big day. Maybe you can honor both your mom and your uncle. A little something for everyone to remember your mom and a little something to acknowledge that it is also your uncle’s b-day.
Post # 4
btw.. my second wedding out of my cross country two wedding journey will be on Easter … it also happens to be my cousin’s birthday. I totally forgot about the fact that it was her birthday too. They were iffy about it but cool after they got some time to mull it over.
Post # 5
so its both your uncle and your moms birthday – were they twins?
Post # 6
No, just exactly one year apart lol. This is the date the coordinator showed us for the mock up, and we just went with it.
Post # 7
That’s lame. Your uncle is an adult, it’s not like you’re distracting from a baby’s first birthday party or something!
Post # 8
I would think the bigger issue is that it is on your mother’s birthday. Maybe that is why they are having a bad reaction. I’m guessing he doesn’t like his birthday
Post # 9
It shouldn’t be that big of a deal. He should be honored. Maybe you can tell some of the family members that he’s been talking too, that it’s your mom’s bday too and that’s why you chose it, since she can’t be there for it. that should shut them all up.
Post # 12
I think he’ll get over it. My cousin planned her wedding on my parent’s 24th (she even mentioned it during the engagement party) and while my dad was a bit miffed at first, in they end got over it and planned for a trip on their 25th.
Post # 13
That’s dumb & it’s their problem- they are just bringing drama to the table- this shouldn’t be a big deal.