Post # 1
FH and I are having a bridal party and then we’re having 2 (maybe 3) ushers. My brothers (21 & 6) and his nephew (7). I say maybe 3 because my 21 year old brother is being a PITA about pretty much everything these days and he may want to have nothing to do with being in the wedding (right now he’s acting like he’s not coming – which won’t happen).
So, the ‘mini ushers’, should they match the groomsmen or will it be fine if they’re just in adorable little suits? What about my very large younger brother (he’s 6’3). Should he wear a tux to match the groomsmen or should he just look sharp (like the mini ushers). We’re not having a particularly formal wedding – we really just want to give the kids jobs to keep them busy/involved and I’m not asking FH to ask my 21 year old brother to be Groomsmen, they’ve met twice since we’ve been a couple and it really isn’t that important to me.
Post # 3
We had our ushers coordinate with the bridal party. The groomsmen wore all black tuxes and the ushers wore black suits, black shirts, with a red tie. So they didn’t match exactly and didn’t have to rent a tux, but they coordinated well.
Post # 4
There’s no reason to have ushers match unless you’re including them in all your bridal party portraits and care about that. I just told my ushers to please wear a dark suit, white shirt, and conservative tie. The kids will look cute in suits whether they match or not. Plus, if your brother is being a PITA, will he really want to shell out the money for a tux rental?
Post # 5
We aren’t have the ushers match either. Our rentals are $200 dollars and that is too much to ask of people who aren’t in the party and won’t be in many pictures. All our ushers are younger than us (high schoolers and early college) and none of them own a suit or sports coat, so honestly I would fine with just a nice pressed shirt and tie, and maybe a vest or sports coat if one of them wants.
Post # 6
@MsGinkgo: We had our ushers in similar colors but not matching the groomsmen.
Our groomsmen were in slim fit navy suits and champagne gold tie/vests/cravat while our ushers were in navy blazers with khaki pants (matching each other) while our ring bearer was in his own little captain’s suit (we had a nautical wedding).
If I had time, I probably would have matched the ties to the champagne color of the groomsmen but the ushers aren’t that vital…..
I would try to incorporate them as much as possible while still setting them apart.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We had 3 groomsmen, and 1 usher. Groomsmen wore tuxes, usher got to wear a suit he already had- he was very happy not to have to pay for anything!
Post # 8
Our ushers wore the same tux, with a different color vest and tie than the groomsmen.
I don’t think they have to match, though. They could wear their own suit, for example, and color coordinate the ties.
Post # 9