Post # 1
So bees, we got a STD for one of SO’s friend who will have a wedding next year. The couple is vegetarian and buffet is the norm for his circle so no there will be no checking off meal options with the rsvp card. We will eat of course what they serve as we are not picky eaters and just glad to be there to share their day with them. However it got me wondering what their menu will be like. In general, should vegetarian couples only serve vegetarian menus because that is their practice or should they accommodate non-vegetarian guests with meat options? What do you think?
Post # 2
I cases like this, I like to play the Turn-It-Around game. So, should meat-eating couples only serve meat menus because that is their practice or should they accommodate vegetarian guests with non-meat options? Same answer 🙂
Post # 3
There is ofc a huge difference, a meat eater can eat vegetarian food, and as a vegetarian you are not only against eating meat, you are also against supporting the meat industry etc = you don’t buy food that is made of animals.
Post # 4
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
A. If it’s a cultural wedding then the question doesn’t apply… I think generally Indians follow a vegetarian/pescatarian lifestyle…so when in Rome! 🙂 I wouldn’t squak at that kind of event or why I don’t get pork at a Jewish wedding.
B. I get that otherwise the couple may be morally opposed to meat (or maybe it gets them sick) but it’s a daring move to not offer ANY meat for other guests. Are you 100% sure that there is NO meat on the buffet though? While vege may be normal for his friends- what about his family?
I didn’t let the general public know that we had a vege option (cause we did a buffet and a special plate was ordered for vege guests) but I reached out to people who I thought wanted/needed the option and clarified to make sure that they were comfortable. That’s the main thing. But again they were the minority…if 5 people at the wedding are the only meat eaters- they should ask out of politeness. Cause some people are really picky.
Then again, if they have a vegetarian caterering company, some of those places can far outcook a meat place. They can be really creative on not just doing pasta dishes (which I hear more veges hate).
In short- I think they should give an option to people they know would be uncomfortable. I don’t judge my vege friends and family for their choices. Just wanted everyone fed, drunk and having fun!
Post # 5
Vegetarianism is a value system. So meat-eating couples should provide veggie meals because it means that they respect their friends’ value system, and a veggie couple shouldn’t have to compromise their values in order to make anyone happy by providing a meat option. I’d expect vegetarian-friendly options only at their wedding.
Post # 6
I think it’s fine if they do veg only. I mean if you think something is ethically wrong I wouldn’t expect you to spend your money on it. It will not kill people to eat one meatless meal. And besides lots of non-veg people do meatless mondays etc. Or many people eat no meat on Fridays durring lent. I think it’s 100% ok and is what I would expect going to a vegan or vegetarian wedding.
Post # 7
I agree with PP, regardless of what my husband and I eat daily, I made sure that all guests with food preferences (vegetarian, vegan) and with food intolerances (allergies, gluten-free) were accomodated. I would expect the same to be done if you reverse the tables.
Post # 8
I was just thinking about that too after writing the original post. I just realized that plated meals always have vegetarian options as most of the population are not vegetarians.
Post # 9
Should they? I think it’d be nice. But it kind of depends on why they are vegetarian and how strongly they feel about it. If they do it for health reasons, that is one thing, but if they do it because they are morally against eating meat, they might not want to contribute to that by buying meat for a wedding.
I think they’re fine as long as they have “normal” food that just happens to be vegetarian. Pasta, salad, bread, etc. rather than tofu and veggie burgers. I could eat lasagna and never miss meat, but I wouldn’t really like having to eat grilled tofu or something like that.
Post # 10
im veggie my fiance is not and we will serve both
I hate the ignorant switch it around argument… I am ALLERGIC to meat, would you expect peanuts at a nut allergy wedding???
luckly being in the same room as meat wont kill me but it is TOTALLY not the same as meat eater not offering diety requirments because eating meat is NOT a requirment
Post # 11
I think as long as they serve enough food it shouldn’t matter. I’m a big meat lover but I don’t eat meat at every single meal every single day. I don’t think it’s the same as offering a vegetarian option if the main courses are primarily meat; meat eaters also eat veggies, while the vegetarians don’t eat meat.
Post # 12
I would never expect meat at a vegetarian couple’s wedding. If they find eating meat to be unethical I would never expect them to go against thier moral values.
A meat eater providing a meatless meal for thier vegetarian guests is complete different than asking someone to go against thier moral code just to suit your preference.
Post # 13
Hmm. It depends, I think. I’m vegan but my partner eats meat. So for us, I think we would just serve both, as it reflects our tastes as a couple. But for a vegetarian couple, it would make sense to serve only vegetarian, as long as there was a good range of dishes (which is perfectly possible, even without meat).
Post # 14
I think it depends on the couple. Some of the vegetarians I know are a lot more militant and vocal than others. I have friends that personally don’t eat meat/fish, but would still offer an option to those who do, and those who won’t and would probably make quite the statement about it!
Post # 15
It would be nice if they offered meat, but there are so many vegetarian versions of classic, comfort foods that I think a full vegetarian reception is 100% doable and can be enjoyable for meat eaters.