(Closed) Should vegetarian couples only have vegetarian menu?

posted 4 years ago in Food
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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scissorgirl :  Because one requires the couple to compromise their ethical beliefs.

Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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RosaBride :  I think people just generally try to accomodate all their guests and offer multiple options, which might or might not include a dish with meat or fish at a vegetarian couple’s wedding. Using your logic there should not be any expectation of meat dishes at any reception, because meat eaters can eat vetarian dishes, but vegetarians can’t eat meat. Although, I have been to a wedding where the only palatable choice at the buffet was the vegetarian lasagna, so maybe…

Post # 33
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Helper bee

I would not expect to be served meat at a vegetarian couple’s wedding. Most vegetarians are vegetarian due to ethical reasons, and I would not expect them to compromise their ethical values so that I could eat meat.

It’s certainly not the same as providing vegetarian meals at a wedding where meat will be served. If a vegetarian meal is not provided, the vegetarians will not have any food options. In contrast, there are many delicious vegetarian meals that I, as an omnivore, can eat freely.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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RosaBride :  Thx for your replies. I guess I look at it still as a preference. It’s not an allergy, it’s a choice. One person MUST make accomodations (the meat eater), one person gets to slide by on ‘morals/values’.

I’m sure even vegetarians can eat at an omnivore meal. They eat everything but the meat. (vegans would be a bit different obv)

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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tinkks :  I don’t get your point?

 

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scissorgirl :  Sure, it’s a choice just like religion. And as I said, I went to a wedding where they didnt have vegetarian options so I tried to eat the side (2 salad leaves and 2-3 bites of I believe mashed potatoes). I didn’t complain because it’s really not about me. I would have appreciated a bit more food cause I was hungry and didn’t eat all day (chruch ceremony etc…), but as I said OH WELL, who cares! I clearly survived and still had a good time!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think couples can serve what they like at their wedding.  Don’t think it’s my business what people “should” serve.  If I don’t think I would enjoy their menu I would just go and not eat, or not go at all.  

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would actually look forward to a vegetarian wedding bc I  would be interested to see what they would serve. I’m not a picky eater, and love to try new foods, and the vegetarian menus pp posted sound delicious. 

I would never expect a vegetarian to give their money to the meat industry for me. I can gladly eat vegetarian for one meal. It’s not going to hurt me.

Post # 38
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Helper bee

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scissorgirl :  Let’s be honest here. You’re an omnivore, not a carnivore (exclusively meat eater). You can choose not to eat pasta (whether that is because you are allergic to gluten or it’s just a preference), but there should still be things you can reasonably eat for dinner at a vegetarian buffet. Even though you eat meat, plant-based foods are likely to make up a large part of your diet anyway. Vegetables, grains, dairy, legumes, and nuts/seeds are huge food groups with many options in each, so even if you did abstain from wheat you would still have enough reasonable options left to make a filling meal.

Would you expect an observant Jew to serve pork or pepperoni pizza at their wedding? Would you expect an observant Muslim to serve pork or alcohol at their wedding? I certainly wouldn’t, because that goes against their ethical and moral beliefs. This is analogous to vegetarianism, since most people who are vegetarians choose to follow that lifestyle due to their ethical and moral convictions.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

No I don’t think they need to serve meat, meat eaters can eat vegetarian meals, eating meat isn’t a dietary constraint. I eat meat and often eat vegetarian meals without even thinking about it. 

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I view it in the way of, what would i expect if i went to thier house for dinner? Would a veg or vegan cook meat in thier home? Prob not, and i wouldn’t be offended. So i would expect the same at thier wedding. Same goes for if someone doesn’t drink. If i go over to someone’s house for dinner and they don’t drink, i don’t expect them to stock up on booze for guests. I expect the guests to byob or make due with plenty of other nonalcoholic options.

It would be nice if they offered the meat, but i wouldn’t expect it.

Post # 41
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if the couple morally opposed meat, then they should not serve meat..

but if they are vegetarians for health reasons, then i don’t see why thy wouldn’t server meat.

i went to vegatarian wedding last year.  as with most weddings that i go to, the cocktail hour was amazing.  but the dinner sucked. 

Post # 42
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s up to the couple and their beliefs.  Will they support meat being served at their event?  Some people are so opposed they couldn’t stomach it.

That being said, I think they should offer some meat dishes alongside vegetarian dishes just to make sure everyone has something they’d enjoy eating.

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: LA Athletic Club

We will be serving vegetarian only options for our wedding. As many of you mentioned, I won’t be spending $25,000-30,000 on something that is unethical to me. Every person and meat eater there will be able to eat something they like. We also are giving options that are dairy free and nut free.

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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bibbithebee :  Not all vegetarians are vegetarian because of ethical reasons. Sometimes it’s religious or simply a choice for their own unique health issues. I lived as a vegetarian for 2 years and it had nothing to do with me not supporting the meat industry. It was because meat products were affecting my body.

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My Fiance is a vegetarian and one of the Groomsmen is a vegan. I’m hoping to do a buffet with a variety of meat, veggie, and vegan options so everyone can eat.

If we were to do a sit down meal, there is often a vegetarian option but it may not be vegan. Or it may just be vegan (my Fiance was upset at the vegan option he was served at a wedding, just a plate of steamed veggies).

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