(Closed) Should vegetarian couples only have vegetarian menu?

posted 4 years ago in Food
Post # 46
6240 posts
Bee Keeper

We did a veggie wedding. Tons of gorgeous food. I can’t imagine people who eat meat eat it at every meal.  

Our venue is not only veggie/vegan but over half its menu is and its know for great veggie and vegan food. 

I don’t feel the need to have animals killed the rest of the year to meet my nutritional requirements and favoursome whims, so I certainly didn’t feel the need to put dead creatures  on the menu to celebrate our special day  


Post # 47
394 posts
Helper bee

They should have meat options as well as vegetarian options, just as they would expect a wedding they were a guest at to have vegetarian options to accommodate them. It works both ways and no one (vegetarian or non-vegetarian) should force their meal preferences on anyone else. 

Post # 48
1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

I think they should accommodate for both, my friend is a vegan for instance and when she comes here I cater to her and make sure I have stuff in for her and ask lots of questions to make sure I’m doing things right.

however if I were to go to hers I am not allowed to have anything non vegan in her house. Needles to say I don’t go. I personally wouldn’t enjoy a vegetarian/vegan wedding as I dog eat lots of vegetables – I’m fairly picky and carrots,mushrooms, corn in my limit 

Post # 49
235 posts
Helper bee

If I were vegetarian, I would serve vegan and Girlfriend food. Not super fair to people who don’t eat carbs or dairy or gluten otherwise. 

I am dairy intolerant. I eat meat. I love vegan.

Just seems most considerate of everyone’s diets. 

Or just make sure to have a killer salad… Everyone can eat salad and is not gonna kill someone to eat healthy! 😅 

Post # 50
7624 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

If I were going to a vegetarian couples wedding, I would expect a vegetarian buffet. As long as it’s filling and delicious I don’t care if there’s meat in my meal.

Post # 51
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think it probably depends on their parents/ family and how much their parents are involved in the planning / paying of the wedding. I am not vegitarian but I bet if I said to my mum “I want to serve only vegitarian food at my wedding” she would put her foot down and insist I have an “option everyone will like OR ELSE”.

Personally I don’t think anyone should push their food prefferences or values on other people. I think it’s rude to judge how others eat, or to make comments about your form of eating being superiror or to host someone and not take their prefferences into account.

Post # 52
999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Yes, it’s good to be accommodating of all your guests’ dietary restrictions.

But I’m guessing no one here knows a single person who eats literally only meat.

Post # 53
1270 posts
Bumble bee

Depends on the couple. My Dad is vegan, but not for the same reason as most other vegans. He doesn’t care much at all about the meat industry. He gave it up because he was over 300 pounds and needed to lose a lot of weight to be healthy. He may not cook a meat dish (he hasn’t eaten it in so long that it tastes and smells horrible to him), but if my folks were throwing a party they would have some kind of meat avilable, most likely.

I think, unless a vegetarian is gung-ho about not eating animals because they think it is immoral, they should offer a meat option, for politeness sake. If they are into it because of their personal values, I don’t see anything wrong with them declining to serve meat. To me it is not so different from a couple who chooses not to have a bar because they are either non-drinkers for religious or health reasons (alcoholism runs in my cousin’s family, so there was none at her wedding). No one is gonna die going one evening without meat or alcohol.

Post # 54
1790 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

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socalgirl1689 :  we had meat and vegetarian options. 

Post # 55
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would expect the wedding would be vegetarian, though I do think it’s thoughtful when vegetarians try to accomodate their guests if they are comfortable with it. I know several vegetarians who aren’t as bothered by fish, even if they don’t eat it. 

What I do find surprising is all of the vegetarian and vegan people who only tell their guests at/after the wedding (always to comments about how great the food is – what guest is going to say it’s awful, even if is?) I think in general it’s better to give people the heads up. I’m from a very meat and potatoes family and I can just imagine the surprised comments by some of my uncles haha. I also have to follow a low FODMAP diet and would normally just make do with the few things I can eat, (which sometimes is just the meat) but a lot of vegetarian food is quite challenging – then I could eat before or plan to eat after. I don’t think it needs to be a big announcement, but word of mouth would be thoughtful. 

Post # 56
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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socalgirl1689 :  I think they should have at least 1 non-vegetarian option. Just like meat-eating couples usually have 1 vegetarian option.

Post # 57
2668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Honestly, I think it would depend on their reasons for not eating meat. My mum is a vegetarian because she doesn’t like the taste of meat – she has no problems preparing meat dishes for my family, so just prepares herself a vegetarian alternative as well. A close friend of mine is a vegetarian because she feels that eating meat is unethical. Whenever I go to her place for a meal, I fully expect to eat vegetarian and have no problem with this – she is a fabulous cook and I know that whatever she prepares will be delicious. Even my Fiance, who loves meat above all else, enjoys her meals and doesn’t mind eating vegetarian every once in a while.

If the couple have provided enough food (as I’ve found some vegetarian dishes to be far less filling than those with meat, although things like risotto are always very filling) I wouldn’t see a problem with them only serving vegetarian food.

Post # 58
1206 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I love how people act like vegetarian food is some weird or new kind of food. I highly doubt most people eat meat at every single meal and snack. Have you never had a salad, cheese pizza, quiche, any pasta dish without meat? I’m not a vegetarian but I’m not eating bacon for breakfast and often don’t have meat in my lunches and they’re perfectly satisfying. 

To answer the original question, if a couple was both vegetarian I’d probably expect their wedding to be meat free and it wouldn’t bother me.  

Post # 59
2355 posts
Buzzing bee

Well I’d like some meat since I can’t eat pizza or quiche due to dairy and while I do eat salad daily I’d rather have something with a little more heft if I was drinking. 

Post # 60
9182 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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scissorgirl :  See that is a misconception- a vegan/vegetarian may not be able to just pick around the meat in an omnivore meal. In fact that can make a vegan/vegetarian really ill. It has to do with not having (enough) enzymes to digest the meat and is obviously worse the longer you have observed a vegan/vegetarian diet. Kind of like how you wouldn’t expect someone with a seafood allergy to just pick the prawns off the top of a piece of steak.

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